OK so before current DP I had 2 other LTR's. In both of them I kept a little book with the birthdays of all siblings, siblings partners, nieces/nephews and parents ofc. I would always be the one to remember, buy the cards and presents for any occasion. No mean feat especially as one exP had 8 brothers and sisters and 10 nieces and nephews, as well as 5 parents (dad, step-mum, mum, current step-dad and previous step dad).
When I got with DP I decided I CBA with all that, it was DP's family and he should be the one to make the effort. So for xmas I buy my family cards and presents and get them sent out, same for birthdays, anniversarys etc. DP does nothing. Blames it on being too busy and will not even ring his DM on her birthday let alone send a card. He sees his parents about 2 times a year (we only live about 50 miles away). Gets annoyed when his mum calls and texts etc.
A bit back DM messaged me on FB telling me how upset SIL was that DP had not congratulated her on her engagement basically telling me I needed to do something about it. I told DP what had happened and he rang his sis but seriously it is not my problem/responsibility.
Now she made some snide comment about how she sends us lovely cards but gets nothing back in return. AIBU to think shes out of order to direct this at me at all rather than her son? Or should I be responsible for it?
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MIL thinks I should make more effort - is it me or her who is BU
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myfurbyisalive · 22/12/2014 16:17
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