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To wonder why my brother hasn't proposed to his gf yet?

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amibeingunreas Mon 22-Dec-14 15:03:57

They have been together for about 5 1/2 years, they both want to get married one day as far as i can know.

We got married at 19 so perhaps i'm a bit bias but do you think 5 1/2 years is too long to just be 'in a relationship'?

they are 23 and 26.

J

DishwasherDogs Mon 22-Dec-14 15:06:29

YABU.
MYOB.

They are still very young, perhaps they are happy being a couple without being married.

JeanneDeMontbaston Mon 22-Dec-14 15:06:49

Sounds normal to me.

mswibble Mon 22-Dec-14 15:07:15

I personally think that 19 is far too early to be married off. I'm a totally different person now at nearly 30 and my social circle is completely different, dread to think what my life would be like now if I had stuck with what I had then!
And I've been with my OH for nearly ten ... so YABU.

ProcrastinaRemNunc Mon 22-Dec-14 15:07:35

Marriage isn't a prerequisite for a happy life or a LTR. YABU! Its their choice and a very personal one too.

magpieginglebells Mon 22-Dec-14 15:07:54

We were together 11 years before we got engaged. We wanted to be stable in our careers, be debt free and in a position to buy a house before we got married.

RabidZombie Mon 22-Dec-14 15:08:51

Maybe they don't really want to get married. They just let nosy relatives believe they do because its easier than answering "but...why not?"
You never know!

Bulbasaur Mon 22-Dec-14 15:09:28

Me and DH were together for about 5-6 years before we got married.

I also had two relatives that were never married, and were eventually classed under common law marriage. They lived happily together until they died. I also have relatives that have been divorced and remarried 3 times.

amibeingunreas Mon 22-Dec-14 15:09:40

They own a house etc. I know they both want to get married as they have expressed opinions on it etc. I think maybe the gf is embarrassed by it, especially as we were married so young.

Hurr1cane Mon 22-Dec-14 15:10:24

I want to get married eventually, but not yet. I'm 26 and I love DP to bits but I have my disabled child to raise first and then I have to find a way to get back into work when he's at a point were he's not at hospital every other week.

IloveOreossx Mon 22-Dec-14 15:10:44

Together 14yrs. Not married. JUDGE ME

Lj8893 Mon 22-Dec-14 15:10:52

Why does it matter to you?

fairylightsonthetree Mon 22-Dec-14 15:11:23

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MrsKoala Mon 22-Dec-14 15:11:26

23-26 seems very young to me to be married and 19 is positively a baby! I was with ExH for 9 years before we got married - he was 27 and it was still too young for him really.

amibeingunreas Mon 22-Dec-14 15:11:39

they are very traditional, would not have children before married, so this is why I don't understand it.

amibeingunreas Mon 22-Dec-14 15:12:19

it doesn't matter to me really, it is just a bit embarrassing for the gf.

Fanfeckintastic Mon 22-Dec-14 15:14:24

Why would she be embarrassed? They sound incredibly sensible, anyone I know who married at 19 in this day and age were far from sensible, didn't have houses, careers etc.

bloodyteenagers Mon 22-Dec-14 15:14:46

Not that traditional if they are shacked up... Just saying.
Maybe they are married already.
Could have eloped. You never know.

Lj8893 Mon 22-Dec-14 15:15:34

Whys it embarrassing for her?

amibeingunreas Mon 22-Dec-14 15:15:56

Why does them living together make them not traditional? I didn't actually say they were living together anyway

mommy2ash Mon 22-Dec-14 15:16:26

why are pushing your own assumptions on the issue. you are being both unreasonable and ridiculous. they are both young and im sure the age you were married at has no bearing on their life decisions.

SwedishEdith Mon 22-Dec-14 15:17:06

They're very young to be thinking about children. And why should he propose and why would she have to wait for this? Marriage is a joint decision so adults should discuss it as such not sit around waiting for someone to propose. confused

Fanfeckintastic Mon 22-Dec-14 15:17:14

You said they own a house OP.

BreakingDad77 Mon 22-Dec-14 15:17:17

Seems bit early, I think many people experience a lot of change in this period, I know I am quite a different person to who I was then. Nothing wrong with them hanging on as long they both on same page.

Letthemtalk Mon 22-Dec-14 15:17:28

I've been with dp for almost 21 years. Engaged for more than 20 of those. Should I be embarrassed?

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