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to think its rude to put "to sibling & family" on close family cards?

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StripedCandycaneOss Sun 21-Dec-14 21:35:52

I'm talking in-laws here, if you know their name, their spouses name and their kids names, you put all of them on, like "To John, Sandra, Gary and Jane" not just "To John & Family"

Its not something my family has ever done.. its something in our books that you do on cards for colleagues or friends who you know but don't personally know their partners or kids...etc, its an acquaintance thing... you certainly don't relegate your family members spouse of 10yrs+ and their children to 'and family'

Is it just me? Or does anyone else think its rude, and would you feel slighted if you received a card from your family or your in-laws that was addressed like that?

Trills Sun 21-Dec-14 21:38:01

Lazy yes, but not actively rude.

BuzzardBirdRoast Sun 21-Dec-14 21:39:58

No, it's not rude, it simply means you don't want to write out a load of names on a card as it looks odd.

NCIS Sun 21-Dec-14 21:40:38

Wouldn't bother me at all, neither lazy nor rude in my family.

sooperdooper Sun 21-Dec-14 21:41:53

Writing cards is boring, and if they're close family anyway you'll see them anyway so they can say merry Christmas, why bother with a card at all

vintagesewingmachine Sun 21-Dec-14 21:44:46

I agree with you, OP. If you know the names of the family residing in the household, then you you should write them in full.

gamerchick Sun 21-Dec-14 21:47:04

why do people care what people write on cards man? There's been loads of these threads this week.

Just be happy you're on somebodys card list 'weeps'

WomanScorned Sun 21-Dec-14 21:48:14

My dad does this; to Woman & family, from dad & family.
But I AM his family.
I avoid any offence/misunderstanding, by giving a tenner to a beggar instead of buying cards!

Pico2 Sun 21-Dec-14 21:48:39

You would have had a fit at the card my PIL sent. There was no "To..." or "Dear..." and they just signed their first names. Not Mum and Dad or Nan and Grandad. I just assumed that they were busy.

batgirl1984 Sun 21-Dec-14 21:49:30

'And family' is code for 'oops I've forgotten the baby's name'. Or possibly code for 'I write too many Christmas cards and should probably cull some for next year'.

averageanomoly Sun 21-Dec-14 21:52:11

I just did this on a family bereavement card to my sister in law (who is happily married to my brother with children) as her dad has died and I wrote to doil and family' because I meant her mum and brothers as well as my brother and niece and nephew . But it did feel rude

WorraLiberty Sun 21-Dec-14 21:53:49

Please please please please!! fgrin

StripedCandycaneOss Sun 21-Dec-14 21:56:39

this baby pic is better ;)

spiffysquiffyspiggy Sun 21-Dec-14 22:02:36

The card from my inlaws said "to Spiggy, Mr Spiggy and the Pests" grin

WorraLiberty Sun 21-Dec-14 22:03:59

Can't argue with that. Yes it is! fgrin

maudpringles Sun 21-Dec-14 22:04:15

That would annoy me, to be honest.

SunnaClausIsComingToTown Sun 21-Dec-14 22:07:53

Why write who it's to inside at all? It's already written on the envelope.

Seems a bit odd to write inside as well.

ConfusedInBath Sun 21-Dec-14 22:07:53

I have some friends that have about 12 dc ( slight lie ) and I can't remember how their names are spelt ( unusual spellings ) so I just right to mum and dad names and family. I'm sure they don't give a toss.

Bulbasaur Sun 21-Dec-14 22:07:59

This is why my cards include our signature as part of the design. No writing required on the cards, a little impersonal but I get to avoid stupid Christmas card politics.

Redglitter Sun 21-Dec-14 22:11:04

Not another thread on card writing 'etiquette' hmm

I've lost count how many of these threads there's been.

I can't believe people care about this enough to get annoyed by it.

DealForTheKids Sun 21-Dec-14 22:19:02

I have a cousin with 5 kids (and a dog)...

The outside of the card says "The Surname Family" but I do list them individually inside the card (including the dog!)

CassieBearRawr Sun 21-Dec-14 22:26:52

So much angst over cards! Come on guys, unless someone writes "Dear [you], I fucking hate you. Have a shit Christmas" I think you can safely assume no malice was meant and accept said card gracefully.

Topseyt Sun 21-Dec-14 22:33:35

Doesn't bother me at all.

I am one who finds writing Christmas cards a real chore. I tend to assume that some others might also feel that way.

I don't think this is something I would even really notice.

wobblyweebles Sun 21-Dec-14 22:43:48

I buy the kind of cards where there is no space for writing everything, and it's just pre-printed with 'Happy Christmas from Wobblyweebles and family'. Saves so much time and effort, and best of all it probably gives the OP something else to be offended by.

Here to help.

DeWee Sun 21-Dec-14 22:45:16

Does anyone really mind?
I don't mind what people write. There's usually a few cards where they spell at least one name wrong, one or two where they get a name totally wrong, and occasionally one where they have obviously forgotten one of my dc's names and added it later. Do I care? Not a bit. Occasionally it gives us a giggle.
Also, we are central of our own little world. I don't expect everyone else to have on tap exactly what my dc's names are. Heck, I call them the wrong name often enough.

But I'm probably wrong, because I enjoy most of the Round Robins we get becaue it's nice to have news from people I like, even if we don't see them often. But worse we actually send one. It seems to be well received, because we have had a few people ask if we wouldn't mind sending them one too. We might even have mentioned we got a new (to us) car this year... but a once in a decade event is perhaps reasonable to mention.

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