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AIBU to be miffed at selfish person stealing my blue badge space?

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YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually Sun 21-Dec-14 20:06:23

Long sorry but I'm getting it off my chest! This afternoon I went to our small local naice supermarket. I am disabled and have severe chronic pain so walking is difficult. I always try and use a blue badge space (I have a badge) for the width as it makes it easier to get out of the car with crutches or sticks if I'm not using my chair, and they are nearer.

The car park was hammered. The blue badge space is a separate area at end of car park close to doors. I saw a person loading their bags into car to the right hand side in a BB space so smiled at them and pulled up on the left with my indicator on, allowing enough room for them to pull out of the space. They took a few minutes, which I understand as I am slow too. Whilst I was waiting a car pulled in front and stopped. The driver caught my eye in the rear view so I did that sort of "I'm waiting for this space" gesture but they didn't move, however driver put a BB on Dashboard and an elderly lady got out of passenger seat and went into store so I assumed driver was just waiting for her there. You've guessed it, the car in BB space pulled out and as I had to wait for them, the car in front reversed in! When the driver got out, I wound down my window and politely said "excuse me but I was waiting for this space" to which she replied "well sorry I didn't see you and I've dropped my mother off now" and just started to walk off. This did anger me so I confess I said "You did see me. Well aren't you selfish". She then came to my window and said "well I just thought you were parked illegally" so I said "you did see me, I was indicating and you knew I was waiting". To which she said "look it's very busy and my mother is in the store so I'm sorry, but what do you want me to do, move the car". By this time I could see people looking at us so I just "oh just forget it" and reversed off. As I was driving out a space came free at the end of a row so I parked there in order to get my sticks out easily. It was at the other end though so it did hurt to shuffle the extra distance.

I hate confrontation so wouldn't normally have called to her but I really needed the space and I WAS THERE FIRST <uses stick as gavel smile It seems so minor writing it down and I'm usually a together person but I found myself really annoyed and frustrated. I I had tears in my eyes (not like me) when I was walking into the store and now I'm worried about parking to collect my turkey on Tuesday (I accept this is a first world problem!)

So AIBU in that I was there first, and as her mother had already got out of the car, surely she could have parked elsewhere? (I'm sure she assumed I didn't have a BB when she caught my eye hence the pass agg placing of her mother's BB and as she was bolshy when she came to my window until she saw my sticks and support splints. I'm my thirties so get a lot of people assuming I don't have a badge).

I know it's AIBU but please be gentle!

YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually Sun 21-Dec-14 20:08:35

God that's really "he said she said" isn't it! blush

Sirzy Sun 21-Dec-14 20:09:59

You should have blocked her in. Selfish cow (her not you!)

SoonToBeSix Sun 21-Dec-14 20:10:13

If the driver wasn't disabled they should have moved once their move got out of the car and come back for her.

Quitethewoodsman Sun 21-Dec-14 20:10:21

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SoonToBeSix Sun 21-Dec-14 20:10:27

Mother not move!

joanne1947 Sun 21-Dec-14 20:11:19

YANBU. Disabled spaces are for the disabled. The other driver could have parked anywhere in the car park and walked, pain free, to the shop. She could have then walked, pain free, to get her car and driven to pick up her mother near the shop.
I think people who use spaces for the disabled when they do not need them are the lowest of the low.

AlwaysLookOnBrightsideOfLife Sun 21-Dec-14 20:11:20

I don't think ywbu at all. Although I think the answer to her 'what do you want me to do, move?' question should have been 'yes, please since I was here waiting first'.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Sun 21-Dec-14 20:11:43

She was rude. Whilst it might have been inconvenient for her to park in a normal space and then drive to the storefront to collect her mother, it's likrly it was possible. As you were on your own, you didn't have that luxury. First come, first served.

SoonToBeSix Sun 21-Dec-14 20:11:48

On Tuesday park in any space and ring the store from your car and ask them to bring your turkey out to you.

Euphemia Sun 21-Dec-14 20:12:24

There will always be rude bastards, sadly.

YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually Sun 21-Dec-14 20:12:48

Oh thank you, you have all cheered me right up!

Always, I know! Wtf was I thinking? grin

WooWooOwl Sun 21-Dec-14 20:13:58

YANBU, woman was rude and selfish.

YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually Sun 21-Dec-14 20:16:27

Do you know, she looked like a MNer too.....is it bad that I'm hoping she is and sees this? grin

Lifesalemon Sun 21-Dec-14 20:16:42

I can understand why you are so upset. When it is obvious someone is already waiting to drive into a space, any space, its common curtesy to look for another. It was just downright rude.
I hope you manage to get there on Tuesday without any problems.

Marmiteandjamislush Sun 21-Dec-14 20:16:56

I have, when I have been in this situation with my DN, who has severe CP and a converted car with a side ramp, so we need the width too; sat behind a person and beeped my horn so that everyone knows what they are up too. I do give them a chance to show me their badge though. grin

TinklyLittleLaugh Sun 21-Dec-14 20:19:13

You should report her. It is an abuse of a blue badge for an able bodied person to be using it to park, which is actually what she did if she had already dropped her mother off.

Nasty woman.

Viviennemary Sun 21-Dec-14 20:19:40

Even if she didn't see you or realise you were waiting for the space, she should still have moved on and then come back and collected her mother. YANBU.

YesIDidMeanToBeSoRudeActually Sun 21-Dec-14 20:20:39

I know this is bad as I understand invisible disabilities but part of me was thinking "her mother walks better than I do"". That is BU I know but she was definitely more sprightly than I am.

WeeFreeKings Sun 21-Dec-14 20:23:59

If she was trying to play blue badge top trumps she is an arse. Perhaps in a future situation you could get yours out and dump it out in a 'top trumps' stylee?? She didn't need the space more than you once she'd dropped off her mother. I'm sorry you're worried now about visiting that supermarket but hopefully it'll be a one off and this thread might give you some 'next time' tips (hopefully there won't be a next time of course).

ohtheholidays Sun 21-Dec-14 20:24:24

YANBU at all I get this all the time and sometimes there's 3 of us in the car that are disabled and entitled to a disabled bay.

I worked out a little while ago it's not being disabled that depresses me as much as people's attitudes to me being disabled.

She was out of order,I wish shops ect would back up they're disabled customers over they're disabled car spaces.

Happynapi Sun 21-Dec-14 20:25:36

BB sticker or not it is very ignorant but made worse by someone who really should be much more considerate of others.

SoonToBeSix Sun 21-Dec-14 20:26:35

Tinkly no it's not an abuse of a BB, it's perfectly legally just selfish if someone is waiting.

Purplepoodle Sun 21-Dec-14 20:26:56

Sounds completely selfish. She could have easily parked the car in normal parking space then gone and got it to pick her mother up later.

OddFodd Sun 21-Dec-14 20:28:56

This time of year, people are utter wankers about parking. My ex nearly came to blows with a bloke when we'd been waiting for a space and the other bloke drove the wrong way down the aisle and nipped in.

YWNBU OP - there are twats everywherehmm. You should petition your naice supermarket to provide more spaces I reckon

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