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To lock him out if he's drunk.

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ChristmasCrackerPop Sat 20-Dec-14 22:50:14

DH doesn't drink much, when he does he's a nasty drunk and usually can't resist vomiting over the bedroom carpets.

We've not got on well lately due to me having an amino and him being unsupportive and uncaring. I'm going alone on Monday as he forgot to ask work if he could take 1hr off.

He's at his works do tonight, he's promised he won't drink but subconsciously i know he will. His last works do (last year) he didn't come home all night, when he came back at 7am he had no boxers, socks or jumper and said he had broken into his mums place (she hasn't spoken to him for 2 years!!) and claimed he had been spiked and started crying. Who knows...

But WIBU to lock him out if he is drunk, I can't deal with the nasty comments tonight. The 2 cars on the drive are open for him to sleep in.

Fairyfellowsmasterstroke Sat 20-Dec-14 23:07:06

Wow, he sounds a twat rather unpleasant person.

Definately lock doors, turn all phones off and retire to bed with earplugs in.

Sweet dreams x

Jodie1982 Sat 20-Dec-14 23:10:29

Yep I'd lock him out too. Chuck a blanket in the car just incase it gets too chilly. grin

zaracharlotte Sat 20-Dec-14 23:13:43

I wouldn't to my DH. I've been that drunk before, and you need someone to look after you. It happens to the best of us. I wouldn't put somebody I love in danger, even if he was being a prick.

If you don't love him however, do what you please!

ashtrayheart Sat 20-Dec-14 23:14:18

Is he likely to bang on the door to be let in?

championnibbler Sat 20-Dec-14 23:15:49

I'd be leaving him, not just locking him out.

vestandknickers Sat 20-Dec-14 23:18:47

It sounds as if you don't like him much.

You can't lock him out of his own house though.

ChristmasCrackerPop Sat 20-Dec-14 23:19:07

There is a blanket in the boot of the car, and a litre of water.

I feel bad but you know it just feels like I'm a mug sometimes. He said he'd be back by half 10-11 too, 11.20 now not one text or call to let me know eitherway.

Due to ex DV relationship the thought of someone coming home drunk to me scares the hell out of me as it is, current DH when drunk is everything he said he'd never be.

ChristmasCrackerPop Sat 20-Dec-14 23:20:52

I love him but he does nothing but make me cry with insensitive comments and nasty comments each day, let alone drunk.

CurlyWurlyCake Sat 20-Dec-14 23:22:07

It's tricky. Can you call him? If I locked my drunk husband out he would bash on the door and wake the DC.

He won't know the car is available, will he?

vestandknickers Sat 20-Dec-14 23:22:46

You love him, but think it is acceptable to make him sleep in the car in December?

Just leave a note asking him to sleep on the sofa and go to bed.

ChristmasCrackerPop Sat 20-Dec-14 23:23:13

He will, he always goes in the car if we've had a row. Never yet when drunk though.

If I called him he'd get annoyed, say I'm being controlling x

Redglitter Sat 20-Dec-14 23:23:43

let's hope he doesn't choose to sleep in the drivers seat of the car or he could be in serious trouble if a passing police patrol spots him.

What if he doesn't realise the car is unlocked and when he can't get in falls asleep on the door step. You really want to take that risk?

ChristmasCrackerPop Sat 20-Dec-14 23:24:12

I would usually say the sofa but it just came yesterday and is brand new so don't want it ruined

vestandknickers Sat 20-Dec-14 23:25:10

Nice that you value the sofa above your husband.

waithorse Sat 20-Dec-14 23:26:03

I wouldn't. But I can understand why you'd want to brew

CurlyWurlyCake Sat 20-Dec-14 23:27:23

X post.

That isn't right, you shouldn't have to live like that. What is amino? Are you pregnant?

Fairenuff Sat 20-Dec-14 23:27:38

Won't he throw up all over the car though?

SouthBySouthWest Sat 20-Dec-14 23:27:44

You deserve better.

puntasticusername Sat 20-Dec-14 23:27:48

Sounds as if the sofa may be worth rather more than the husband tbf...

ChristmasCrackerPop Sat 20-Dec-14 23:27:57

Amniocentesis yes I'm 15 weeks x

ChristmasCrackerPop Sat 20-Dec-14 23:28:43

If he wanted to throw up over the car that's his choice, my car is locked in the garage so won't be me having to worry

nslw Sat 20-Dec-14 23:30:30

You should just leave him... You seem to care more about the sofa than you care about him. He sounds like a twat. Better just cutting your losses to be honest!

nslw Sat 20-Dec-14 23:31:14

Oh and why are you bringing a child into this mess?

CurlyWurlyCake Sat 20-Dec-14 23:31:35

Oh dear, this is such a bigger problem.

If you don't feel safe tonight, don't care that he sleeps in his car then so be it but you can't live like this and it will be worse when DC are involved.

What is your future plan?

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