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(155 Posts)
GoTellItToTheMavis Sat 20-Dec-14 15:59:13

I've noticed this over the last few years - women who I know have written all the family/friends Christmas cards and yet who sign it from Bob, Jane, little Bob, Little Jane.

Why not put yourself first? You wrote the thing. Surely men don't need precedence in card signing? Or perhaps everyone I know writes in age order and it's simply a coincidence that all the DH/Ps are older hmm

WitchOfEndor Sat 20-Dec-14 16:02:05

I think etiquette demands that the head of the family is listed first. But as I'm the one writing the cards I always put mine first!

gymboywalton Sat 20-Dec-14 16:03:07

it all depends who it's to
if it's to dh's relatives or friends, i do his name first
if it's to mine, i do mine first

GoTellItToTheMavis Sat 20-Dec-14 16:05:12

Hadn't thought of etiquette, perhaps that's it. Mind you, I don't go in for all that Head of the Family bolleaux hence divorce.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Dec-14 16:05:26

Same as gymboywalton

APlaceInTheWinter Sat 20-Dec-14 16:06:20

Traditionally the format was the same as Mr and Mrs but I change the order of names when I'm writing Christmas cards. The name that goes first depends on:
1) the format of the card (eg if it's an odd shape and one name fits better than another)
2) who knows the addressee best
It means you could get a card from me that says MrAPlace, MrsAPlace,DCAPlace but that decision would have been based on one of the reasons above not because MRAPlace is more important than me. HTH

Pico2 Sat 20-Dec-14 16:07:20

If I'm writing something, then my name goes first. I think we even have bank accounts with Mrs & Mr on them.

I don't think we have a "head of the family" as DH and I are equals. But I do more of the admin stuff, so if that makes any difference, I'd be the head of the family.

AcrossthePond55 Sat 20-Dec-14 16:07:37

DH does his own cards to his family & particular friends and signs his name first, I do my family & particular friends and sign mine first.

FryOneFatManic Sat 20-Dec-14 16:08:59

If DP writes the cards (which is never, he doesn't do cards grin) he puts his name firt, regardless of who the card if for.

If I write the cards, I always put my own name first, regardless of who they are for.

annielouisa Sat 20-Dec-14 16:09:32

If its to DH family or friends then he is first and with mine I go first.

GoTellItToTheMavis Sat 20-Dec-14 16:10:22

I must just be my friends then. I seem to have lots of cards from MrX, MrsX, written in MrsX's handwriting and I hardly know MrX.

I shall stop getting annoyed by it now I know MNers are doing it properly wink

Mousefinkle Sat 20-Dec-14 16:10:24

Head of the family- pah! Hello 20th century hmm.

I put DH's name first generally because DS and DH have the same first initial and the two names sound a bit silly next to each other (if you're reading aloud, I appreciate most people don't...). So for example Bernard, Barry doesn't sound or look right to me whereas Bernard, Susan, Barry does? grin. I put DC's names in age order.

AlwaysLookOnBrightsideOfLife Sat 20-Dec-14 16:11:09

I write them in age order, unless it's to his family (I'm older though).

houseofstark Sat 20-Dec-14 16:11:13

If I'm writing the cards, my name goes first.

If they're to his friends and family, I have no idea as he writes them. I presume he puts his name first but I've never actually checked.

DeckTheHallsWithBartimaeus Sat 20-Dec-14 16:12:15

I write to my friends and family and put my name first. I do write the DC in age order though.

DH writes to his friends ad family and Im assuming puts his name first but havent looked to be honest!

fluffling Sat 20-Dec-14 16:13:40

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TheWitTank Sat 20-Dec-14 16:14:14

Really? I always write my name first, then husbands and kids and dogs. Looking through my received ones I would say it's fairly equal.

MrSheen Sat 20-Dec-14 16:18:03

I put me first, as I'm the one writing them. If my siblings and I give a joint gift to my parents, I usually deal with it, because of geographical convenience, and I always put us in age order. It would feel really odd not to.

ThreeFrazzledFandangos Sat 20-Dec-14 16:18:07

His family and friends I put his name first. My family and friends my name goes first.

I write all cards (apart from MiL's as she kicks off if her PFB doesn't write hers) as DP's writing isn't legible.

He does all wrapping though as I have no patience!

Discopanda Sat 20-Dec-14 16:20:56

I always put my name first then OH because it I think it sounds better in that order. Does that make me a crazy lady?

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Sat 20-Dec-14 16:21:15

My next door neighbour writes the card and signs it from her, then her dh signs his own name.

It reminds me of when I was a child and my mother would call me and my sister to come and sign cards.

RaptorInaPorkPieHat Sat 20-Dec-14 16:21:27

I only write my friends and families cards, so naturally as I'm more important to them fgrin my name goes first.

DangerousBeanz Sat 20-Dec-14 16:22:03

I write them, my name goes first. But then I am head of the family fgrin

Annunziata Sat 20-Dec-14 16:22:04

DH's name comes first, he's the man.

fourwoodenchairs Sat 20-Dec-14 16:23:40

Whenever I write cards I always sign with DH's name first. He's heD of the family thank god it's not me

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