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AIBU to think every relative does not need to be 'darling'?

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CalleighDoodle Fri 19-Dec-14 18:18:13

Seriously? Whats that about? I understand DP, DH, DC but why anyone else?

CaptainAnkles Fri 19-Dec-14 18:19:27

In threads I read them as just shorthand for husband, son etc. Also I thought the D stood for dear.

usualsuspect333 Fri 19-Dec-14 18:22:48

No one ever started a thread about this ever before.

Are you new?

VitalStollenFix Fri 19-Dec-14 18:24:03

Habit, i suppose. Also i think it's sort of the 'culture' of mn. As it is on many other sites.
It's not compulsary though. If you dont like it, dont do it. I don't. I don't care if others choose to though. Although it can be confusing sometimesgrin my ds went with my ds to see my df at my dfs house

Showy Fri 19-Dec-14 18:26:16

You don't read it as 'darling' or 'dear' or whatever. We use two letters because it scans better than one. You just read 'husband' or 'aunt' or whoever is being referred to and you soon get used to it. It's a part of the community and one which enables you to read replies better. You don't have to use it and you don't have to read it as a literal representation.

TheBatteriesHaveRunOut Fri 19-Dec-14 18:29:18

The 'd' can stand for whatever you like


TheBatteriesHaveRunOut Fri 19-Dec-14 18:30:42


probably there's nice 'd' adjectives as well blush

ZenNudist Fri 19-Dec-14 18:31:56

I don't read it as dear husband etc. I read dh as husband. It's just that typing 'd'H makes it easier to understand. Its just an abbreviation. You can accidentally type all manner of other single letters if you were just writing 'H' and not notice.

NollaigShona Fri 19-Dec-14 18:32:16


FestiveChopinLizt Fri 19-Dec-14 18:32:26

It's often missed off GPs, I notice. So I think the poster's GP (dr) is being unreasonable or whatever.

Showy Fri 19-Dec-14 18:35:11

GP isn't a single letter though so you don't need the D.

It really is just a usability thing and as above, you can add your own meaning.

For example, stbxh stands for 'stupid bastard ex husband' in my head. grin

CassieBearRawr Fri 19-Dec-14 18:37:30

Hah, welcome to parenting websites. Very few other kinds of forums do it, consider it an annoying quirk and gloss over it.

Sparklingbrook Fri 19-Dec-14 18:43:21

You just forget all about it eventually. It's just second nature, and everyone knows what is meant.

GP can mean Grandparent or Doctor or Guinea Pig mind. grin

TheBatteriesHaveRunOut Fri 19-Dec-14 18:47:01

lol NollaigShona

Sparklingbrook I will always read GP as guinea pig from now on. I expect it will liven up some threads no end.

Sparklingbrook Fri 19-Dec-14 18:48:19

grin 'AIBU to expect the GP's to be more hands on?' Well yes considering they live in a hutch in the garden.

farewellfigure Fri 19-Dec-14 18:56:22

That's so weird. The post suddenly gave me a flashback to being a newbie and having to look up what it meant. And looking up pfb, ttc, ltb, bf, blimey, everything. Now it's just second nature. You'll soon forget the d is even there. The one I always have to be careful with is ds for sister as that's son as well. Or dn for niece and nephew. Trickier! Are there rules for those?

WalkingInaWhippetWonderland Fri 19-Dec-14 18:58:15

When someone says Darling, it makes me think of Margo and Jerry in the Good Life.

And people that say it haven't snogged each other for years.

Sparklingbrook Fri 19-Dec-14 19:00:15

Ooh The Good Life Christmas episode in on BBC2 tomorrow at 6.30pm

AlpacaLypse Fri 19-Dec-14 19:04:00

I use DS for son, DSis for sister. And write out DNephew or DNiece if I'm talking about them. <pedantic>

YY farewellfigure I remember having the Abbreviations List open on a separate tab to flick through when I first started on here back in 2007!

AlpacaLypse Fri 19-Dec-14 19:07:20

What I do have to stop myself from doing is using DP, DTD1, DTD2, etc etc in texts or on FB - as it will (a) Out me as a MNetter and (b) thoroughly confuse people.

I also tend to try to use [ and ] to make emoticons in emails, texts, FB etc, which can look very very silly, especially if it's a work related one!

HollyJollyDillydolly Fri 19-Dec-14 19:31:35

I also read GP as Guinea pig smile

GothMummy Fri 19-Dec-14 19:38:10

The first time I noticed this was on the Flylady website in around 2002! I read it as just "husband/partner/whatever". Not darling!

thatwhichwecallarose Fri 19-Dec-14 19:45:14

showy - I'm glad I'm not the only one. I think it's (usually) very appropriate.

And I also have the problem of using the initial elsewhere and being outed (normally DMIL as my friends don't know her by name and it's a pain to write longhand)

HollyJollyDillydolly Fri 19-Dec-14 19:52:05

I try to do strikeouts when texting and forget that I can't.

Aliceinvodkaland Fri 19-Dec-14 20:14:59

i agree with usual grin

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