My mum adores DD and helps me out once a week with childcare. She does things differently to me but I try not to let things bother me as I am grateful for her help. She does tend to buy things for DD all the time and I have asked her to sometimes arrive at our house without anything as I don't want DD to expect something every time. I have struggled a bit with the build up to xmas. My mum is stepping into what i feel is my territory as a mum, i know she is loving the role of grandma but some things have felt out of my control. I have bitten my tongue several times but today ended up snapping at her and I feel bad so want to explain how I feel and ask her to back off a bit - but don't want to upset her the week before xmas. The reason I snapped today was because she showed me some pyjamas (with some characters on) and asked if DD had a pair. When I said no she said well she has now and she should open/ wear them xmas eve. I said No rather loud and said I was sorry but I have pyjamas ready for xmas eve, that we really didn't need any more presents for xmas and perhaps they could be saved for birthday. I feel like I need to say that she's my only DD and (particularly in our house) me and DH want to be the ones who decide how we're doing things. Would that be unreasonable?
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To ask well meaning grandma to back off a bit?
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Flyingbytheseatofmypullups · 19/12/2014 13:38
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