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To think I have it worse than DH (light hearted!)

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ameliarose2012 Thu 18-Dec-14 21:19:22

Just wondering if you can settle an ongoing argument between me and DH.

Currently, I set off to work at 7am, which means that when DD gets up at 830/9 DH has to get up with her Mon-Fri. He works 4 afternoon/ evening shifts, so is out of the house for teatime/ bath/ bed so I do the majority of this.

On a weekend we currently get up with DD 1 day each BUT DH thinks I should do both, as he is up with her during the week. My argument is that the reason I can't do the during-the-week get ups is because I have already been up and out for 2 hours when she is surfacing, so should be entitled to a lie in at the weekend!

So tell me-who is BU???

Tobagostreet Thu 18-Dec-14 21:22:10

You're both equally entitled to a lie in.

arethereanyleftatall Thu 18-Dec-14 21:23:56

How many hours do you both work ooh?

arethereanyleftatall Thu 18-Dec-14 21:24:43

And, how old is your dd? Who looks after her during the day??

messyisthenewtidy Thu 18-Dec-14 21:28:37

The reason you can't get up during the week is because you're already out the house. It's not like you're lazing in bed!

Secretblackandmidnighthag Thu 18-Dec-14 21:30:57

8:30-9am is a bloody lie in! (In this house it would be anyway)

MrsKCastle Thu 18-Dec-14 21:33:41

He IBU. It should be one lie-in each at the weekend.

ameliarose2012 Thu 18-Dec-14 21:35:14

I knew you'd all be on my side! It's not a constant argument, but probably crops up every 4-6 weeks.

I work 30 hours, and he works 25 (but has a much longer commute), so similar. DD is 2.6. She goes to a childminder sometimes, and my sister has her some afternoons.

MrsKCastle Thu 18-Dec-14 21:35:47

I forgot to ask- you say he does evening shifts, what time does he finish? It makes a difference if he is getting less sleep than you.

ameliarose2012 Thu 18-Dec-14 21:39:39

He finishes at 9, but doesn't usually get in til 10/1030. We tend to go to bed together around 11, unless I'm very tired and go early

Stillwishihadabs Thu 18-Dec-14 21:40:00

I have been there doing a 2-12 shift after getting up with the dcs it is tough.

TheFairyCaravan Thu 18-Dec-14 21:41:32

DH gets up at 5:20am so he can leave for work at 6:30am.

I don't work due to disability. DS2 (almost 18) wakes me at 8:30am with a cup of tea just before he leaves for school. I usually fall back to sleep and wake up about 10ishblush and have to re-heat my tea!

Every Sunday, DH gets up, let's me sleep in and brings me breakfast in bed. It's been that way ever since we got married.

You both should get a lie in on a weekend.

LongDistanceLove Thu 18-Dec-14 21:43:29

Neither of you are being unreasonable. Can you do it so one weekend you get a lie in, the next dh gets the lie in and the third you do one day each?

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