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LonelyThisChristmas28 Wed 17-Dec-14 16:54:41

Why are some people on these Thereads so personal and nasty at times ?

CatWreathkeith Wed 17-Dec-14 17:34:06

Aibu can be quite erm, blunt at times.

Try chat instead, Aibu is not for the faint hearted! smile

lemisscared Wed 17-Dec-14 17:35:54

Never post on aibu unless you are to read the truth with no sugar coating.

If i am upset or sensitive about a thing i dont post here

JeanneDeMontbaston Wed 17-Dec-14 17:37:34

Because we're sad and bitter. It's very unfortunate, and you should exercise compassion.

Sirzy Wed 17-Dec-14 17:38:58

Some people are personal and nasty in life so obviously some will be personal and nasty on threads on here.

I do think though often people accuse people of being personal and/or nasty when they simply don't like the fact the majority don't agree with them. No always of course but a lot of the time

MaliceInWinterWonderland78 Wed 17-Dec-14 17:39:34

Because they're nasty people. Don't EVER dare to have a contrary view. I've seen some people here bully others in a way which suggests that they're 'organised' outside of the threads -either that or the mumsnet ethos is so ingrained in them that they have the ability to act 'as one'

DandyHighwayman Wed 17-Dec-14 17:40:27

Sad and bitter and OLD don't forget. Some of us are knocking on a bit. Y'know, over 35 shock

ghostspirit Wed 17-Dec-14 17:41:58

i post on Aibu because i know there will be a reply. i take out the replys i find helpful. there are often some that make no sense to me what so ever. and then you can see the replys that are a bit of a wind up.

JeanneDeMontbaston Wed 17-Dec-14 17:43:43

Oh, of course, dandy.

ghostyslovesheep Wed 17-Dec-14 17:46:51

yes it's a sad, bitter old nest of vipers and no mistaking - try the fluffy bunnies page

DoraGora Wed 17-Dec-14 17:51:13

Who's calling me a viper?

OfaFrenchMind Wed 17-Dec-14 17:53:03

JeanneDeMontbaston Love it smile

Discopanda Wed 17-Dec-14 18:18:28

You're being unreasonable!!! Only joking, I think sometimes people need a bit of bluntness in their lives but people get a bit personal when they know it's anonymous and behind a keyboard.

CupidStuntSurvivor Wed 17-Dec-14 18:20:48

People come to AIBU to argue different points of view. If they're the type of person to argue in an unkind way, that's what comes across. AIBU isn't for the faint of heart.

Pagwatch Wed 17-Dec-14 18:20:58

I'm lovely. Well most of the time. I've been a bit of a twat in recent weeks but it's been a difficult time. But definitely mostly lovely.
You can only bring the lovely to counter the horrid. But don't bring the Hun

That's my advice.

Hobby2014 Wed 17-Dec-14 18:26:09

Surely, though, people can have different opinions, or say yes you're being unreasonable, disagree etc and not be personal, spiteful, nasty, bullying etc? Just because you disagree, doesn't give you the go ahead to be a dick... That's what people on AIBU seem to forget.

CupidStuntSurvivor Wed 17-Dec-14 18:30:45

Some people in general forget that while arguing Hobby, it's not AIBU-specific. It's just more obvious here because it's the place people come to in order to argue.

JingleBellSniffer Thu 18-Dec-14 09:16:27

I've been known to hide my own threads because people got very nasty as they can tell I'm very young. MN doesn't like that.
However, I believe people need to hear the truth from people of all ages, all experiences and sometimes, you're not going to like it.
AIBU can be pretty awful at times as the PPs have said. Like cupid said, it's more obvious on AIBU because it's mainly the arguing board.

EatShitDerek Thu 18-Dec-14 09:19:56

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

YoullLikeItNotaLot Thu 18-Dec-14 09:42:04

Sirzy
Some people are personal and nasty in life so obviously some will be personal and nasty on threads on here

I do think though often people accuse people of being personal and/or nasty when they simply don't like the fact the majority don't agree with them. No always of course but a lot of the time

Completely agree with this. I remember a thread where I thought the OP had been given a really easy ride considering what her AIBU was. Most people disagreed with her but in a fairly neutral way. Then she slung some insults round and said she wouldn't be back and it was right what she'd heard about MN.

My personal dislike are responses which berate the OP for something they can't change eg "well didn't you think about this before getting pregnant" - how is that in anyway constructive?

Fallingovercliffs Thu 18-Dec-14 10:25:12

It's the same on every internet forum. You're always going to get some members who are just rude, immature, ignorant or incapable of posting something civilised.
You also get a lot of posters who don't read the first post properly and start arguing from an angle the poster never meant, which is really irritating.

Enjorasdream Thu 18-Dec-14 10:45:07

Because they feel so bad about themselves that they have to project bile and hurt into others in order to try and offload it. I bet half of them would not act the same if placed ina room of strangers.
A computer screen is a very good hiding place for cowards. Some of them come on here just to bully and argue. I have posted in AIBU before, in my old name, and whilst the the majority agreed with me, there were 3 or 4 regular posters who turned the thread on its head. They completely pulled apart every word I had said, twisted it, and were downright and utterly spiteful to anyone who questioned them. I hid the thread in the end, but went back a couple of weeks later and they had carried on for a good 2 days after, being total bitches, calling me all the names under the sun because I had left the thread and wasn't responding to their bullying tactics. I had 9 Pm's from other MN users who expressed disgust at the way I had been treated.
Those who had been so awful are on here most days, they are regular posters, and they crucify others on a regular basis using the same tactics, it's almost as if they are working from a script.
I feel sorry for them that there must be something in their lives that is making them feel so bad, they have to act so viciously to others.

Fallingovercliffs Thu 18-Dec-14 10:52:11

I have to admit there's a handful of posters and when I see their name I know, before even reading their post, that it's probably going to be antagonistic and unpleasant. Some people really only seem to come on here to have a go at other posters.

Mammanat222 Thu 18-Dec-14 10:57:00

I like AIBU due to the the fact it's so cutting!

I don't like people being horrible for the sake of it though.

BallsforEarings Thu 18-Dec-14 22:11:31

It doesn't seem to reflect RL but that's the fun of it I think, in RL people are much more respectful of one another but here its a laugh as long as you know it's just a laugh and take it with a pinch of salt!

I like it, I like the wind ups but not when I think someone is getting upset and taking it seriously because some people do seem to!

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