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Charlullaby Sun 14-Dec-14 23:09:00

Been for a weekend away with the family. We got home late and we had cheese and biscuits as a kind of supper. I wasn't very hungry so I just had a couple of grapes.

My bil then said - Charl thats the healthiest thing I've ever seen you eat.

He didn't say it in a jokey way either.

I'm around a size 12 and I don't eat bad, I always eat fruit and veg every day.

Am I too sensitive? I just wouldn't dream of commenting on what people eat or their habits. Especially when everyone is sat around the table together.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Sun 14-Dec-14 23:10:58

Yes, you are being too sensitive confused.

JustMuddlingBobBobBobbingAlong Sun 14-Dec-14 23:11:50

Perhaps you were stressed after spending time away with extended family. But I think you're being over sensitive. Sorry.

Charlullaby Sun 14-Dec-14 23:15:02

I suppose I just didn't like the fact he seemed to be implying that I eat really bad food all the time.

I've known him 8 years, and he acts shocked when I eat a grape.

Just make me feel quite shit sad

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange Sun 14-Dec-14 23:15:11

Way to sensitive.

I eat heathy at home, but out I let it slip.

Charlullaby Sun 14-Dec-14 23:17:02

It wouldn't have bothered me if he meant just the weekend.

But he meant ever, as in the full 8 years we've known each other.

JassyRadlett Sun 14-Dec-14 23:18:16

Actually, OP, it's a fucking weird thing for someone to say. I wouldn't have known how to take it.

Eminado Sun 14-Dec-14 23:19:00

It doesn't matter. You know what you eat. Just ignore.

notenoughwine Sun 14-Dec-14 23:20:06

I'd say it really depends on his personality and your relationship with him. Is he someone who tries to pick on others or say things to try and being them down? And is he a bit mean or cold with you?

I probably wouldn't read too much into it but maybe you're not being over sensitive.

Discopanda Sun 14-Dec-14 23:20:43

If you feel self-conscious already those little 'harmless' comments can really hurt! Does he often make comments about your eating habits, appearance, etc?

Fuckmath Sun 14-Dec-14 23:21:27


I would have been hmm

honeysucklejasmine Sun 14-Dec-14 23:22:14

I'd be upset. Unnecessary of him to make any sort of comment at all really.

CheeseBuster Sun 14-Dec-14 23:24:14

I think you sound a bit sensitive. Was it the end of a long weekend?

Charlullaby Sun 14-Dec-14 23:24:56

Its not the type of comment he would say to my parents or his wife (my sister)

I'm sensitive about my weight and just thought that comment was not necessary.

Charlullaby Sun 14-Dec-14 23:27:26

I suppose I just don't watch what other people eat. I don't care ... they are adults that can decide for themselves what to eat and when to stop.

I wish I was someone who would have forgot that comment but I felt very confused when and after he said it.

ThatWasThat Sun 14-Dec-14 23:29:12

Could he have just thought he was being witty?

sykadelic Mon 15-Dec-14 02:59:55

Nope not too sensitive. It's never appropriate to discuss someone elses eating habits, weight, appearance or anything else negative unless expressly invited to do so "does this look okay?" (or they're about to walk out of the bathroom with loo paper hanging out).

Very rude.

PotteringAlong Mon 15-Dec-14 03:37:30

I think you're over thinking this onw

Mrsstarlord Mon 15-Dec-14 03:52:31

Too sensitive, you've just said as much yourself.
Let it go - to be sung whilst thinking 'fuck him, I love me'

Yarp Mon 15-Dec-14 04:54:03

I think he was rude

MrsMaker83 Mon 15-Dec-14 05:29:08

He sounds like an idiot. Why was he taking note of everything you ate?!

Chottie Mon 15-Dec-14 05:36:13

I just wondered why he had to comment?!?

Seriouslyffs Mon 15-Dec-14 05:36:41

Definitely rude.

NoelleHawthorne Mon 15-Dec-14 06:02:28

Oh god move on

velourvoyageur Mon 15-Dec-14 06:09:05

I think you're too sensitive, sorry OP.
It's not a crime to be fat (not that you are), it's fine, and it's not a crime to not eat healthily either (not that you don't).
You need to let silly judgyness like that roll off your back.

Can definitely see the situation and it's just a casual remark. Taken out of context it's slightly weird I suppose but when everyone's around the table, joking, maybe a bit tired....doubt he meant it pointedly at all!

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