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I know IABU but

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HootOnTheBeach Sun 14-Dec-14 22:25:15

I never gave it a thought until last week.

I saw photos of my friend's new DP who is a bit unfortunate looking. Apparently he is a mix of English and Eastern European and this cocktail has not gone down well. His parents look very normal and in fact his mother is quite attractive. The blend just doesn't seem to have worked.

I am now feeling very squirrely about having children with my (English) DP what with me being EE myself.

Feel like I'm being very unreasonable because looks shouldn't matter blah blah but it's niggling at me.

Anyone else feeling like this or felt like this? fsad

NoArmaniNoPunani Sun 14-Dec-14 22:26:55


southeastastra Sun 14-Dec-14 22:27:45


Pagwatch Sun 14-Dec-14 22:27:49


Did you really just type that?

IsabeauMichelle Sun 14-Dec-14 22:27:56

Are you serious? shock

GoofyIsACow Sun 14-Dec-14 22:28:09

Ha ha ha! YAOBVIOUSLYTotally Fucking U

ghostyslovesheep Sun 14-Dec-14 22:28:26

oh hmm dear

LuckyLopez Sun 14-Dec-14 22:28:27

Christ what a nasty person you are!

YABU and I hope you don't pass your horrible views onto these potential children.

JustMuddlingBobBobBobbingAlong Sun 14-Dec-14 22:34:31

Christ on a bike! I pity your future children, for having such a nasty, opinionated and shallow mother.

calculatorsatdawn Sun 14-Dec-14 22:36:07

Ha ha, brilliant! See how it goes op if you end up with an ugly child just have it adopted. That's what social services is there for after all.

plummyjam Sun 14-Dec-14 22:36:08

Nope I've never felt like a squirrel.

LaurieFairyCake Sun 14-Dec-14 22:36:11

Maybe he's just normal ugly - there are loads of ugly munters around - you should see me grin

Your children will be beautiful and the good news with genetics is that even if they're bog ugly you will still as their mum think they're beautiful - honest.

pictish Sun 14-Dec-14 22:37:24


ArgyMargy Sun 14-Dec-14 22:40:48

Is this a joke?

Clueing4looks Sun 14-Dec-14 22:55:02

My mum is English and my dad is Armenian. I am fucking gorgeous.

BlueGreenHazelGreen Sun 14-Dec-14 23:16:11

YABU and quite unpleasant however:
My (gorgeous) Polish friend and her British husband have two extremely good looking boys.

HootOnTheBeach Sun 14-Dec-14 23:21:55

Look, I acknowledge that this is an unpleasant thought to have, that's why I'm trying to talk about it on here.

I'm definitely not going to have children then tell them they're ugly! Having thoughts like this does not mean that I will skip off for a bit of EA.

WineWineWine Sun 14-Dec-14 23:24:41

You are far uglier.

Ohfourfoxache Sun 14-Dec-14 23:28:14

Pregnant with dc1 - I feel very sorry for them having me as a mother, but hopefully they will look more like DH than me.

Yes I look like the back end of a bus, but looks aren't everything - I've done ok and I'm pretty sure my parents love me regardless.

HootOnTheBeach Sun 14-Dec-14 23:28:17

OK, thanks. Attack me, that will put my mind to rest.

HumptyWasPushed Sun 14-Dec-14 23:40:22

Then why post? What did you expect us to say? Spare me.

JustMuddlingBobBobBobbingAlong Sun 14-Dec-14 23:44:48

Your thread title is 'I know IABU but...' Most of our replies agree, YABU. No buts.

Moreshabbythanchic Sun 14-Dec-14 23:48:18

My son is British, his DGF is EE, they have the most beautiful baby ever. Just saying, YABU.

bolshieoldcow Sun 14-Dec-14 23:49:30

You get good looking people and not so good looking people from a variety of genetic mixes. There's no recipe for success and thinking in that way is, frankly, a bit dodgy (see: eugenics)

But that aside, here's the thing...when it's your own kids, you think they are gorgeous.

Hopefully your friend's DP is a lovely person which, tbh, counts for a whole lot more than initial appearances.

Sparklingbrook Sun 14-Dec-14 23:49:57

I would go back to never giving it a thought if I were you.

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