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To be annoyed at hypocrites buying thongs, bras for young daughters

(29 Posts)
BreakingDad77 Sun 14-Dec-14 10:53:52

Then crying about 'society' sexualising them

CatsClaus Sun 14-Dec-14 10:55:57

gosh...you must get very involved with other shoppers to know their thoughts on underwear for pre-teens.

if it is someone you know then surely point it out to them.

BreakingDad77 Sun 14-Dec-14 10:57:25

It was more a stab at general society

Sn00p4d Sun 14-Dec-14 10:57:29

Surely that's the point? A bra shouldn't be sexual. It's a necessity for supporting your boobs not a play thing for the opposite sex! I like bras, God knows I need them, but I choose them because I like the pretty pattern, or the fabric, or the fact they provide even a modicum of support, not for my DH. He wouldn't wear them anyway.

Lj8893 Sun 14-Dec-14 10:59:51

Yeah, a bra is a boulder holder in my eyes!! I have a couple of pretty bras, but that's for me only, nothing sexual about it!
i don't wear thongs though.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Sun 14-Dec-14 11:00:09

I don't see thongs as sexual. I don't see young girls as sexual.

SistersOfPercy Sun 14-Dec-14 11:49:49

Personally I see thongs as 'invisible underwear' for under tighter clothing such as skinny jeans and bras as a necessity to hold up boobs.

sarkymare Sun 14-Dec-14 11:53:14

Your problem is you are seeing a bra as a sexual thing. It isn't.
Buying your daughter a bra is not sexualising her. If she has boobs even small ones then she needs one. Its as simple as that.

Thongs are a bit different as they are by no means necessary. However when I was a young teen, I would hate the way briefs were visible through certain trousers so I would wear thongs. This didn't mean I paraded the streets as a sexualised youngster. I still wore jeans a baggy tee and my trainers. Nobody would have known what I was wearing under my clothes.

IMO its not the underwear available that sexualises youngsters. Its the outerwear. No child should be walking around outside with a skirt half way up their arse and a top that pretty much ends at the nipple. Likewise the words 'juicy' should not be printed on the chest or arse of childrens clothing.

FayKorgasm Sun 14-Dec-14 12:00:40

Thinking of children in a sexual way is wrong, not the clothing.

arlagirl Sun 14-Dec-14 12:04:01

I've just bought thongs for my dd.
She is 18 though.
You sound very obsessed with the issue.

GotToBeInItToWinIt Sun 14-Dec-14 12:06:49

Who is doing this? And how do you know the people buying them are the same people are complaining unless they have done both within your sight/hearing?

ghostyslovesheep Sun 14-Dec-14 12:11:55

so you should never buy children bra's? even when they need them - like my two eldest DD's hmm

Bra's are a practical item of clothing - as are 'thongs' (which are surely just knickers?)

if one of my 'children' wanted to wear a certain type of pants who am I to dictate otherwise - it's not like they are going to go out lap dancing at 13 hmm

You are the one sexualising clothing - which is your issue

TrendStopper Sun 14-Dec-14 12:14:08

My dd is 10 & in the next year or so will need to start wearing bras. I will only be buying them because she needs them not because I want her to be sexual. However a bra for a 2 year old is ridiculous. Yes I am looking at you John Lewis.

BreakingDad77 Sun 14-Dec-14 12:16:04

With bras is in respect to the new John Lewis ones for 2 year olds.

ghostyslovesheep Sun 14-Dec-14 12:16:58

they where an error and JL corrected it ...

there are a number of threads about it

mrsfuzzy Sun 14-Dec-14 12:18:06

i agree with ghostly, i think op meant to say that some parents do give into buying clothles for their daughters which aren't really a good look. some kids are so influenced by certain celebraties [??], but at the end of the day how holds the purse strings and the the right to say no, i think this is what the op was really getting.

CallMeExhausted Sun 14-Dec-14 12:22:34

So, because my daughter went into precocious puberty prior to her 5th birthday and needed a bra in a size 4, I am a hypocrite?

I was just happy to finally be able to find something she could wear.

BreakingDad77 Sun 14-Dec-14 13:28:52

Mrsfuzzy has put it into better words than me.

notagainffffffffs Sun 14-Dec-14 13:38:40

I don't think its a good thing for people to be telling OP what underwear their daughters wear.

TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet (MNHQ) Sun 14-Dec-14 13:59:51

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MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Sun 14-Dec-14 14:07:10

But are those complaining about a sexualised society buying that stuff? I don't think so.

Where's your evidence op? Or is this just a poorly thought out rant about a "problem" that doesn't exist?

Yanbu to find sexualised clothing for little girls to be horrible. Yabu to suggest that those of us who find the premature sexualisation of children horrible are the ones buying this crap. That's a bit of a stupid conclusion to draw isn't it?

Got99problems Sun 14-Dec-14 14:10:48

I think that where you're wrong is the generalisation that the same people are buying bras and thongs for 2 year olds and then complaining about society sexualising children. I'd say that these are likely to be two entirely separate groups, so not hypocrisy at all.

LumionaMoonsplash Sun 14-Dec-14 14:11:28

I've never met one of these hypocrites, where do they live?

AuntieStella Sun 14-Dec-14 14:13:40

"With bras is in respect to the new John Lewis ones for 2 year olds."

You mean 'the John Lewis ones which are actually size 28A and upwards, but which were briefly wrongly described on the website, something which was publicly apologised for two or more days ago'?

MrsWolowitz Sun 14-Dec-14 18:04:38

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