To be annoyed at hypocrites buying thongs, bras for young daughters

[BreakingDad77]

Then crying about 'society' sexualising them

[CatsClaus]

gosh...you must get very involved with other shoppers to know their thoughts on underwear for pre-teens.

if it is someone you know then surely point it out to them.

[BreakingDad77]

It was more a stab at general society

[Sn00p4d]

Surely that's the point? A bra shouldn't be sexual. It's a necessity for supporting your boobs not a play thing for the opposite sex! I like bras, God knows I need them, but I choose them because I like the pretty pattern, or the fabric, or the fact they provide even a modicum of support, not for my DH. He wouldn't wear them anyway.

[Lj8893]

Yeah, a bra is a boulder holder in my eyes!! I have a couple of pretty bras, but that's for me only, nothing sexual about it!
i don't wear thongs though.

[TestingTestingWonTooFree]

I don't see thongs as sexual. I don't see young girls as sexual.

[SistersOfPercy]

Personally I see thongs as 'invisible underwear' for under tighter clothing such as skinny jeans and bras as a necessity to hold up boobs.

[sarkymare]

Your problem is you are seeing a bra as a sexual thing. It isn't.
Buying your daughter a bra is not sexualising her. If she has boobs even small ones then she needs one. Its as simple as that.

Thongs are a bit different as they are by no means necessary. However when I was a young teen, I would hate the way briefs were visible through certain trousers so I would wear thongs. This didn't mean I paraded the streets as a sexualised youngster. I still wore jeans a baggy tee and my trainers. Nobody would have known what I was wearing under my clothes.

IMO its not the underwear available that sexualises youngsters. Its the outerwear. No child should be walking around outside with a skirt half way up their arse and a top that pretty much ends at the nipple. Likewise the words 'juicy' should not be printed on the chest or arse of childrens clothing.

[FayKorgasm]

Thinking of children in a sexual way is wrong, not the clothing.

[arlagirl]

I've just bought thongs for my dd.
She is 18 though.
You sound very obsessed with the issue.

[GotToBeInItToWinIt]

Who is doing this? And how do you know the people buying them are the same people are complaining unless they have done both within your sight/hearing?

[ghostyslovesheep]

so you should never buy children bra's? even when they need them - like my two eldest DD's

Bra's are a practical item of clothing - as are 'thongs' (which are surely just knickers?)

if one of my 'children' wanted to wear a certain type of pants who am I to dictate otherwise - it's not like they are going to go out lap dancing at 13

You are the one sexualising clothing - which is your issue

[TrendStopper]

My dd is 10 & in the next year or so will need to start wearing bras. I will only be buying them because she needs them not because I want her to be sexual. However a bra for a 2 year old is ridiculous. Yes I am looking at you John Lewis.

[BreakingDad77]

With bras is in respect to the new John Lewis ones for 2 year olds.

[ghostyslovesheep]

they where an error and JL corrected it ...

there are a number of threads about it

[mrsfuzzy]

i agree with ghostly, i think op meant to say that some parents do give into buying clothles for their daughters which aren't really a good look. some kids are so influenced by certain celebraties [??], but at the end of the day how holds the purse strings and the the right to say no, i think this is what the op was really getting.

[CallMeExhausted]

So, because my daughter went into precocious puberty prior to her 5th birthday and needed a bra in a size 4, I am a hypocrite?

I was just happy to finally be able to find something she could wear.

[BreakingDad77]

Mrsfuzzy has put it into better words than me.

[notagainffffffffs]

I don't think its a good thing for people to be telling OP what underwear their daughters wear.

[TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet]

Good afternoon all
Couple of quick links:
Our talk guidelines

Let girls be girls

Peace love and goodwill to all

[MovingOnUpMovingOnOut]

But are those complaining about a sexualised society buying that stuff? I don't think so.

Where's your evidence op? Or is this just a poorly thought out rant about a "problem" that doesn't exist?

Yanbu to find sexualised clothing for little girls to be horrible. Yabu to suggest that those of us who find the premature sexualisation of children horrible are the ones buying this crap. That's a bit of a stupid conclusion to draw isn't it?

[Got99problems]

I think that where you're wrong is the generalisation that the same people are buying bras and thongs for 2 year olds and then complaining about society sexualising children. I'd say that these are likely to be two entirely separate groups, so not hypocrisy at all.

[LumionaMoonsplash]

I've never met one of these hypocrites, where do they live?

[AuntieStella]

"With bras is in respect to the new John Lewis ones for 2 year olds."

You mean 'the John Lewis ones which are actually size 28A and upwards, but which were briefly wrongly described on the website, something which was publicly apologised for two or more days ago'?

[TrendStopper]

According to one report I read with regards to JL the bras were also sold instore in the same pattern and next to toddler underwear.