DH has a DBrother and 2 DSisters. They are all in their 30's. 1 is married, 1 lives with long term partner and 1 just moved in with partner. Me and DH have 3 DC under 5. They don't have kids.
The situstion is that we often end up inviting them over for a New Year's Eve dinner, cooked by me, or a family get together And dinner cooked by me, or over for dinner cooked by me when it's one of the DC birthdays etc etc. DHs parents also have all of the family over fairly regularly for a meal. However, we have never been invited to any of DHs siblings houses, even for a drink, never mind a meal. We've only been round to see the houses when they moved in. We are all fairly local to each other but not close enough to drop round. Often the siblings go out together for a night out and we see pics on Facebook, but we are never invited.
We get on well with them genuinely so I don't think there is a personality issue at all, I'm starting to think its because we have kids and they just don't think about us socially, but it's starting to upset me a bit. Not so much because we're not invited to be honest, but just because we seem to be expected to have family dinners etc at ours, and all at our cost, they never bring any food with them. Likewise they never bring any food when MIL and FIL cooks for them at their house. DH has suggested we invite them all over for new year and cook a meal. Last time we did this, they came over for dinner, then left before midnight to go out drinking, and didn't invite us. I understand that it's difficult with kids, but we coud have got a babysitter potentially, or just one of could have gone. Honestly, am I being a bit silly, or is it understandable that I don't want to spend upwards of £50 on a nice dinner plus alcohol etc for them this new year? I feel taken advantage of, like we are treated like their parents.
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To be tired of inviting family round who never invite us back...
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Littlesnowflake · 13/12/2014 15:40
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