I get on really well with my SIL, she's really thoughtful and adores my DS, and this year we are all spending xmas together with her parents (My ILs).
So anyway she asks me what I want for Christmas, so I have a think and I tell her I'd like some new shoes. I tell her my size, style I like, and the shops that sell them at a reasonable price (think in region of £30 or so. That's also what I have spent on her roughly overall, lots of little things). She said yes, fine, thanks for being so easy and making it simple for me! And then didn't hear anything more.
I thought everything was fine but today I got a call from my MIL saying SIL couldn't afford what I'd asked for and that the shoes were too expensive a gift from her. I felt like utter shit, really grabby and terrible that I had asked for them in the first place! When that was NOT my intention. Clearly she has panicked and said something to MIL, perhaps in confidence, thinking maybe MIL knew of other xmas ideas.
SIL earns a fairly decent wage (not saying that she has heaps of disposable income, I don't know that she does!) but she had mentioned briefly that a budget of £40ish would be absolutely fine, so assumed that shoes costing under this wouldn't be an issue.
Hell I dont even care about what I get anymore (I'm not like that) I just wanted to ask for something sensible because we wanted to get each other gifts this year!!
AIBU to wish she'd just said to me "I'm on a bit of a budget...is there something I can get you like a CD, or a candle, for instance?" (Which would tell me I could pick something in the region of £10, not more!) Or, to wish she'd told me herself instead of saying to MIL? I like to think we are close, i'm gutted she has had to feel this way and not been able to say to me :(
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to wish she'd told me Xmas gift was too expensive?! I feel like shit
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