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To be really hurt and upset regarding an unwanted gift?

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EdSheeransGString Fri 12-Dec-14 18:55:37

My DP has been going on and on since last year about a playstation 4. He wanted one but said he was going to wait until they came down in price a bit.
Anyway, he didn't buy one so I have been saving for months to buy him one for Christmas.

He has been a bit stressed recently so I thought I'd buy it and give him it early to cheer him up a bit.

I paid £350 for it, which may not seem like a lot of money but to me it's a huge amount, I'm really struggling at the moment and I've been saving since may.

He came home from work, I had spent most of the afternoon cooking a meal (I'm hopeless in the kitchen, cooking is not my strong point) to be met with him asking me what the fuck I'd tried to cook and that he wasn't risking it he was going to get a takeaway. Fair enough, it probably wasn't that great a meal anyway but I'd spent a while preparing it so I was a bit upset.

I then gave him the playstation and straight away he started moaning that I hadn't bought the right games, that it only had one control pad and why had I not paid for the online membership you need to play with your mates online? I had no idea that you even needed to pay to go online.

I burst into tears and I've been upset for the past hour. OK he doesn't like it, i bought the wrong one but surely he could at least have said thank you? He knows how skint I am and i told him how long it took me to save for it. sad

He has been in his bed for the past hour, we won't see him again tonight so I can package it all back up but I've called argos and they won't let me return it because I stupidly set it up for him to use straight away, thinking he would be happy and could spend the evening relaxing.

Am I being pathetic?

YouTheCat Fri 12-Dec-14 18:57:28

Ditch your ungrateful twat of a dp and sell the PS4 on ebay.

bouncingbelle Fri 12-Dec-14 18:57:36

No you are not!! He is being an ungrateful shit! (And sounds very like my partner!). Get the play station on a fb selling site/gumtree and have your money back by tomorrow. Then spend it all on YOU. I'm angry on your behalf!!!

MrsKCastle Fri 12-Dec-14 18:58:18

Someone is being extremely pathetic.

It is not you.

I would be livid.

3littlefrogs Fri 12-Dec-14 18:58:24

No you are not being pathetic.
But he is being a complete arse.
Does he have any good qualities?

If not - dump him.

You have found out what he is really like. You have an opportunity to escape.

Mrsgrumble Fri 12-Dec-14 18:58:28


I would try argos instore. Or I would sell locally and treat yourself to some nice jewellery.

He's a dick

LondonRocks Fri 12-Dec-14 18:58:35

Are you being pathetic? No. He's being awful. What an ungrateful fuckwit of a man.

He sounds like he's rather entitled. Tell me, what has he done for you lately?

InfinitySeven Fri 12-Dec-14 18:59:30

No, he's being a dick.

Pack it up and sell it on eBay. You'll make a bit of a loss because It's set up but not much. Then keep the money, he honestly doesn't deserve anything else.

Meloria Fri 12-Dec-14 18:59:41

Absolute dickhead.

Mrsgrumble Fri 12-Dec-14 19:00:11

I once had a boyfriend who I cooked a roast for mid week as a treat. he moaned he would prefer a pizza. It took a while but I dumped the spoilt arsehole.

Nelehwelly Fri 12-Dec-14 19:00:26

In the gentlest possible way, if this happened exactly the way you described, you cannot possibly think that your behaviour was the crappy behaviour, can you?

AtrociousCircumstance Fri 12-Dec-14 19:00:29

Wow. What a nasty, ungrateful idiot.

This is a big sign for you to think about what you get from this relationship.

The meal thing was horrible of him too.

Perfectlypurple Fri 12-Dec-14 19:00:32

Wow, how ungrateful. If my dh saved for something he thought I wanted and it wasn't right no way would I say anything and would just suck it up and be pleased he had tried.

Sell it and buy yourself something nice.

beadybaby Fri 12-Dec-14 19:00:35

What a shithead he is.

Sell it and spend half the money on something nice for yourself. Put the rest in your LTB fund.wink

WipsGlitter Fri 12-Dec-14 19:01:04

Total spoilt brat

AnnieLobeseder Fri 12-Dec-14 19:01:07

You're not being pathetic, he's being an arse. I'm sorry, it hurts so much when you try to do something nice for someone and they just throw it back in your face. You say he's stressed, and that may go some way to explain his behaviour, but it is unacceptable for him to use you as his personal punching bag and you need to tell him that. You spent a LOT of money buying him that console, and to utter even a single word of complaint is just rude and ungrateful. If he wants other games/controllers/membership he needs to stump up himself.

I really hope for your sake that this kind of behaviour is out of character for him and he usually treats you with love and respect. If this is typical, you need to cut your losses both with him and the PS4 and get rid of him before he completely destroys your self-esteem.


glentherednosedbattleostrich Fri 12-Dec-14 19:01:16

No, he is a twat. I am actually really angry on your behalf.

I'd be putting it on your local selling site and seeing what you can get back for it then packing his bags and telling him to find some other mug

sharonthewaspandthewineywall Fri 12-Dec-14 19:01:18

YANBU to be pissed off but YABU to spend that much money on a present when you are skint. But im sure you have learnt that now

HamPortCourt Fri 12-Dec-14 19:01:19

LTB - seriously!

I wouldn't expect or accept this sort of behaviour from a small child let alone an alleged adult

He sounds like a total wanker and you sound absolutely lovely.

No way would I let him keep it after this. Can you take it to a friends for safe keeping whilst you try to sell it and just tell him nonchalantly that it's no problem, you have sold it and spent the money on a weekend break for you to go to Venice with your BF?

Miserable ungrateful fucker fangry

gymboywalton Fri 12-Dec-14 19:01:23

1. why are you even with this person?

2. i wouldn't have given it early

3. i wouldn't spend that much money on anyone quite frankly

4. why are you even with this person?

formerbabe Fri 12-Dec-14 19:01:28

Sell it, keep the money, don't buy him anything else.

If it was me, I'd ditch him!

ShadowKat Fri 12-Dec-14 19:01:29

No, he's being extremely rude and ungrateful. That's disgraceful behaviour.

I'd be strongly tempted to box it back up and sell it to someone who'll appreciate it too.

LongDistanceLove Fri 12-Dec-14 19:01:37

What an ungrateful shithead angry

I'd box it up and put it on eBay. Then I'd pack his bags, and tell him to sling his hook for a while.

PurpleCrazyHorse Fri 12-Dec-14 19:02:03

Ditch DP and sell PS4 on eBay (or indeed enjoy it yourself). He sounds so ungrateful and I just can't believe he's sulking in bed.

Even if I'd cooked something awful in the kitchen, DH is most likely to tell me to put my feet up, not to worry and he'd treat me to take out. You DP sounds like an immature child.

Quiero Fri 12-Dec-14 19:02:04

What a bellend!

Sell it, you'll get your money straight back.

I'm sorry but there is no excuse for that behaviour. I honestly think you should consider getting rid.

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