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To think my DH is being ridiculous?

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Collectorofcookbooks Fri 12-Dec-14 13:23:35

He's just announced he's going to give me a Christmas card.

Apparently I am a miserable old goat as I refuse to give him one. He did say that in an affectionate way, honest...

My face looked like this --> shock

We live in the same house, why on earth he feels the need to give me a card is beyond me! What a waste of paper, and money...and this year we've cut right back on on cards as it was getting out of hand, so it feels a little hypocritical of him to give me one when we took a joint decision not to send as many this year!

SageSeymour Fri 12-Dec-14 13:29:41

Bit miserable of you, yes.

I got one for my DH. It's our first Christmas married and I wanted to get one with 'husband' on it so I did. He eye rolled a little because he's probably like you but do I care?! Nah

MummyBeerest Fri 12-Dec-14 13:35:20

I'd love it if I got a card saying something nice from my DH. I'd cherish it.


KoalaDownUnder Fri 12-Dec-14 13:39:43

YANBU. I think giving Christmas cards to people you live with is bizarre.

Unless you write something meaningful inside. Like, at least a few sentences. Something worth saving.

NewEraNewMindset Fri 12-Dec-14 13:43:43

Gosh is it bizarre? I always get DP a Christmas card from me and our 2 year old separately. It tends to be a photo one with photos inside too and we keep them and they go into my son's special memories book thing so he can see then when he is older.

TinyTear Fri 12-Dec-14 13:47:18

DH and I always swap cards!

On our anniversary we actualy bought exactly the same card for each other grin

LadyLuck10 Fri 12-Dec-14 13:49:50

Yabu and miserable. It will be nice to receive a card with a few special words from each other.

WerewolfBarMitzvah Fri 12-Dec-14 13:50:02

YANBU. But I'm not a cardy person.
In fact, DH used to get me cards for everything, all the time and I always forgot/couldn't be arsed.

McFox Fri 12-Dec-14 14:11:42

I always swap cards with DH, he writes the most amazingly beautiful, sentimental words in them. I love them and keep them all, I'd be so upset if we stopped!

darlingfascistbullyboy Fri 12-Dec-14 14:25:00

yanbu I hate cards (tatty, messy, expensive, fire hazards) & I think giving Christmas cards to people who live with you is insane ... but ... some people (families) are card obsessed.

My husband's family send cards for everything (Dear Darling Special Son Congratulations on your Magnificent Poo etc). It's like people who put jelly in trifle vs everyone else ... you'll never make them understand how wrong they are. Unfortunately.

tracyrobo Fri 12-Dec-14 14:28:36

YABU we always swap cards and keep them. Would be very upset not to get a card from DH

WandaDoff Fri 12-Dec-14 14:29:25

YANBU at all IMO.

DP's family all give each other cards for everything and it drives me nuts.
It costs a fortune because there is loads of them and it is such a waste of paper.

JamaicanMeEatMincePies Fri 12-Dec-14 14:32:05

shock he called you old? grin

I don't give anyone cards, I'm also a miserable <young> goat and don't see the point. I have to tell people not to bother sending me them too, they'll only end up in the recycling bin and I'd rather they didn't waste trees their money.

I get its about showing someone you're thinking of them, but anyone I actually want to think about me have my phone number and I'd prefer a text.

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ImFineThankYouSusan Fri 12-Dec-14 14:33:42


If I received a card off The BF I would assume he had had a brain transplant, and vice versa in regards to me.

My mum loves making and sending cards. I am okay with that. Still regard it as a bit pointless but it makes her happy.

LaurieFairyCake Fri 12-Dec-14 14:35:49

My DH 'draws' our animals made out of kisses in my cards and writes lovely things.

Last year he even 'drew' my favourite cat who'd died the week before wishing me Merry Christmas from heaven.

SantyClaws Fri 12-Dec-14 14:37:26


the point of Christmas cards it to wish the people YOU WON'T SEE a Merry Christmas....

Minesril Fri 12-Dec-14 14:38:54

My husband always gets me a card. This year I've also got one from our five month old!

ninaprettyballerina Fri 12-Dec-14 14:41:43

And what's the issue with putting jelly in trifle hmm

partialderivative Fri 12-Dec-14 14:42:50

I think you are being a tad goatish

My mum always gave us a Christmas card each from her and Dad, and she and Dad also exchanged them. I've done the same in my family. It's no different to giving birthday cards, IMO - do you not give your DH a birthday card either?

Bowlersarm Fri 12-Dec-14 14:44:36


Very strange to exchange Christmas cards with partners IMO. What a waste of money.

cogitosum Fri 12-Dec-14 14:52:08

Dh and I do birthday cards but not Christmas.

This thread made me laugh as my dps after 40 years of marriage have suddenly started having this argument. My mum has given us cards as long as I can remember and my dad now says it's a waste of money!

myotherusernameisbetter Fri 12-Dec-14 14:54:12

My DH always does this as well - I think it's weird - I always forget and then have to give him a standard one out of a multipack and he has carefully bought an individual one for me blush

NewEraNewMindset Fri 12-Dec-14 14:54:51

Aww Laurie my Mum has given me loads of cards over the years with drawings of us and the animals inside. They are brilliant and I have kept them. I know when she eventually passes I will love looking at them and remembering all the happy occasions. You just dont get that with texts. There is something about a hand-written sentiment that is lovely.

LineRunner Fri 12-Dec-14 14:55:07

My ExH used to make a ridiculous fuss about bloody Christmas cards and all he'd write in it was 'love from Sid' anyway. Hardly laureate stuff.

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