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To think my friend was pretty mean

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mrbob Thu 11-Dec-14 23:05:01

I know this has been done before but I feel my friend has excelled herself by announcing the birth of our friends baby AND the engagement of another friend in one posting on Facebook before either had been made public... Both have a lot of family overseas and would take some time to spread the word among their close family/friends and this was 3 hours post events. They even tagged the people involved so that the news would not have been limited to mutual friends. WHY DO PEOPLE DO THIS?

thatsmyname123 Thu 11-Dec-14 23:08:21

So out of order to steal someone's thunder like that, I'd be fuming if a so called friend did that to me!

Schoolaroundthecorner Thu 11-Dec-14 23:09:10

They do it for attention and the glee of being first with the news. I hope you told them they were a prat and you were very annoyed.

Lesson learned OP, don't tell them anything like that again!

Mousefinkle Thu 11-Dec-14 23:27:49

Because they're twats.

MammaTJ Thu 11-Dec-14 23:32:36

What a complete and utter low life!

I would not be impressed and they would know about it if they did this to me!

Discopanda Thu 11-Dec-14 23:34:48

Wow, that's low! Maybe she meant it in an innocent way because she was excited but you don't share someone else's news before they tell people themselves.

ladolcevita81 Thu 11-Dec-14 23:37:18

Dhe uiyiiiytilip

JadziaSnax Fri 12-Dec-14 00:55:24

It's happened to me a couple of times when DD was born, I was furious. YANBU at all. One relative excelled herself by announcing that I was in labour.

JadziaSnax Fri 12-Dec-14 00:57:24

Missed a bit. People do it as they want to be first with the news, even if it's not their news to share.

MotherOfInsomniacToddlers Fri 12-Dec-14 02:03:49

Yep a friend did this to me, I'd text a picture of my newborn and told her of the arrival, she then posted the picture to Facebook with "first picture of motherofinsomniscs baby" complete with date, name and weight" it's beyond me what was going on in her head, as if I would have had time to let her know but needed someone else to tell the world for me! shock

Bulbasaur Fri 12-Dec-14 03:12:24

I made it clear that there was to be no facebook postings of DD until I had posted the first announcement. Just to be safe, DH snapped a quick pic of me holding baby and made the announcement a few minutes after birth, then we made obligatory texts to everyone.

The people that needed to know right away were at the hospital with me.

SavoyCabbage Fri 12-Dec-14 03:16:21

My cousins wife announced the death of my cousins mother on facebook. It caused huge problems as two significant family members who live overseas had not been told. The fall out was significant.

SellMySoulForSomeSleep Fri 12-Dec-14 03:32:24

I hate this so much. Sadly a couple of my friends are massive over sharers. One other thing that annoys me is "yey its offical now" "we can tell everyone now" Some people like everyone to know that they knew before the FB annoucement.

SellMySoulForSomeSleep Fri 12-Dec-14 03:34:16

My SIL announced my pregnancy on FB during a wall conversation with a friend.

1charlie1 Fri 12-Dec-14 03:39:42

I called my best friend to tell her DH and I had eloped. Fortunately we had called my DPs and ILs first, as my friend immediately put a big congratulations message on FB (even before we'd arrived back at the hotel!) I was really upset, she totally stole our thunder. I still have no idea why she thought it was appropriate thing to do. We've remained very close, but now I'm pretty careful about what I choose to share with her and when!

Wineandrosesagain Fri 12-Dec-14 06:15:38

I had a late miscarriage and only my brother knew about it early that day, we hadn't even told my parents or PIL at that time. DB's wife decided to tell her SIL, who promptly posted it on Facebook. Cue distraught phone calls from our family and friends. It was hideous. I have no idea why anyone would think it appropriate to do that.

QueenofKelsingra Fri 12-Dec-14 06:21:21

my DBro did it to me, just told my parents and him that I was pregnant and he puts on FB 'I'm going to be an uncle' before we told anyone else! I was quite upset (PFB) but bless him he really didn't realise the knock on effect (my best friend at the time found out plus a cousin in the 7 mins the status was up!). I was upset at the time but in hindsight he only did it because he was so excited.

so yes it is was a bit unthinking of the friend but if it's otherwise a good friend I would put it down to a lapse in judgement!

(I also now caveat anything 'newsworthy' with 'no mentions of FB until I do please!')

Elllimam Fri 12-Dec-14 06:22:50

I sent a group text to announce the birth of DS1 and included a woman from my work who had asked me to text her when the baby was born :/ it actually said on it not to put anything on Facebook as we had a lot of older family abroad who didn't have mobiles and would have to be phoned one by one. She only fecking put a giant congratulations on my wall. Twat. Well I had the last laugh when I was back at work and she got all the bad tea breaks... smile

TestingTestingWonTooFree Fri 12-Dec-14 07:06:44

YANBU. It's so annoying. I was forced into telling friends about DS's arrival after an inappropriate congratulations wall post. That was an hour of messaging when I really should havw been asleep. It's weird that on facebook rather than saying things directly in a message the default is to say things to the recipient and all their friends and all your friends.

JenniferGovernment Fri 12-Dec-14 08:08:41

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EbwyIsUpTheDuff Fri 12-Dec-14 12:21:30

my brother has twice announced that my child had been born on facebook... both boys (yes, I should have learned better after he did it the first time..)

this time around, he'll be told in no uncertain terms to keep shushed until I/the father announce on fb.

Not his kid, not his place.

MimiSunshine Fri 12-Dec-14 12:45:21

One of my friends has just done that OP, I'm pretty certain she wouldn't have liked it when it was her news because she once asked me not to post until she did, which i'd never do anyway.

I almost messaged her and asked if X would mind that she'd just announced it but there's no point me falling out with her. If the person who's news it is hasn't learnt from last time to ask for it to be kept to themselves.

Just makes me realise i'll have to be very clear on this kind of thing when its my news.

ChickenMe Fri 12-Dec-14 18:08:39

Yanbu. I've deactivated my wall since finding out I'm pregnant and it will stay that way. You can in this way stop people writing on your wall.

YvesJutteau Fri 12-Dec-14 18:14:01

You might want to stop people being able to tag you in their posts, too, ChickenMe -- otherwise they can post on their own walls, tag you in it, and all your friends will see it in their feeds anyway.

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