I am currently working part-time in a field that I am somewhat over-qualified to work in. I am fortunate enough to be mortgage free and own 2 other rental properties, and am living comfortably from the income from these and the small income from my part-time role while I complete a Masters and try to write something
I am however struggling with colleagues and this came to a head on Tuesday. I am quite unwell at the moment with a cold and didn't go in but the feeling of relief from this was immense, hence my asking for advice here.
I am in my early 30s (33 in May) and the fact I am this age and am not married/in a serious relationship/divorced with children is a real question-prober. I've been asked more than once why I "decided not to have kids." They aren't being nasty - it's genuinely out of their experience. For them, people my age are preparing to send their children to secondary school but amongst my contemporaries we're just not there yet.
I have one convinced my name is something it is not - - the name of a fucking brand of ICE CREAM and she sings it incessantly. I have tried jokily saying "well lovely singing X but you know Vienetta isn't my name?" She still calls me Vienetta. It's pretty annoying now to be honest.
Another thing I find hard is the casual sort of racism - it's a very "white" area and there's a lot of "I'm not racist but - " of the sort that, "Well I'm not racist but they should just go back to their own country if they don't want to celebrate Christmas!" Same with sexism - someone said a child in a school uniform was "asking for it" the other day because of a short skirt. I have given these two examples but this sort of thing happens a lot. I generally just don't say anything.
Some are lovely and we work together well but others - like the ones above - who go on about my name, where I live (on a narrowboat) and just treat me like a bizarre zoo creature drive me mad.
I am very tired and ill just now so probably am being silly and over reacting but just the same I'd like to feel not wound up and cross and stressed on days I work!
Any advice? And AIBU for needing to moan!?
AIBU?
To be struggling with colleagues - advice?
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