My issues with my PILs are relatively minor compared to some problems on here but would really appreciate knowing whether I'm just being intolerant or not.
They (FIL & SMIL) come up to visit us about every 6 weeks to look after our 2yr old son for a couple of days. They travel from a long way away but want to do it as he's their first gc and they dote on him, which is nice for them & him.
The problem is they are both pretty thoughtless in their behaviour, eg most recent visit they came in from a forest walk and tramped muddy boots all through the house (relatively new carpets as we moved less than 1yr ago). FIL breezily mentioned to me that he'd done this but made no effort to clear it up! They let 2yo scribble pens all over our coffee table despite me telling them drawing stuff only in the kitchen and to supervise him. They are also a bit clueless with looking after him - eg I had to tell them to change his nappy in the morning, otherwise god knows how long they'd have left it. Bear in mind he'd slept in this so he'd already been in it 12hrs+. Normally I'm at work but on this day I was working at home, so really don't know what they usually do. Would have thought after 2yrs of looking after him they'd know the basics!
SMIL is quite dismissive of how we discipline too - we sometimes use the naughty step but she rolls her eyes at it and thinks it's nonsense. Her way is to give into everything he wants and overlook bad behaviour.
AIBU to feel annoyed? I'm heavily pregnant with no2 so maybe my hormones are making me more irritable than normal and I should just button it and put up with them.
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To be narked by PILs thoughtlessness?
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purpleteapig · 10/12/2014 11:10
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