MIL and BIL live 2 hours drive away one way. This is without any delays with traffic etc.
We very rarely see dhs family. They never come to us (they both have a car) and tbh we always go to them when we do see them.
We trvel to see them maybe twice a year.
I have always felt that when they have see dd that they take no interest in her.
Every year we take dhs mum, brother, nephew and grandfather out for a xmas meal.
It works out very expensive when we do this and i sort of resent taking everyone out when we dont get anything back. They have never bought dd a card or gift etc.
Dhs grandfather lives 3 hours away from mil and bil but 1 hour 20 mins away from us. Grandad has said he doesnt want to travel all that way for a meal driving on his own. Dh has suggested we pick him up on the way to mil so grandad would only have to drive an hour or so rather than the 3 hours.
Doing this would mean doing an extra half hour detour each way making the total time in the car 5 hours.
We have suggested they come to us but they always say they cannot afford the fuel so we would have to pay their fuel to come to us as well as pay for the meal out.
Anyway my point is that i think 5 hours in a car in one day for a just 2 year old is too much.
I dont feel dd gets any benefit from seeing them as they dont take any interest in her or talk to her etc.
My mother has offered to have dd for the day (she lives 5 mins away from us).
Dh is not happy that i have agreed for my dm to have dd for that day.
Dh says that his family will want to see dd for xmas and its not fair to not take her.
Is dh being unreasonable to expect dd to sit in a car for 5 hours when imo she doesnt get any benefit from it.
Or aibu to leave dd with my mother and me and dh travel down on our own?
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In not taking 2 year old dd to see dh family at xmas?
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CountingThePennies · 09/12/2014 12:21
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