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AIBU to think ty instead of Thank You is lazy?

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MissBattleaxe · 08/12/2014 12:02

That's it really. If you're grateful for something, just write thank you or thanks. Writing ty means "I can't be arsed to give you more than a nanosecond and I'm too busy for manners."

I see this a lot on FB and in emails and texts and I can't help thinking "Nobody's so busy they can't write a word!"

What's the world coming to? I'm hoiking a heck of a bosom here.

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katese11 · 08/12/2014 12:10

YANBU with autocorrect I can write thanks in a second. Even ta is better than ty

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MissBattleaxe · 08/12/2014 12:12

Exactly katse11. It's like damning with faint praise.

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MagratsHair · 08/12/2014 12:19

Yep I hate it.

I think it comes from the old textspeak where you were limited to 360 characters per text or else you paid for 2 texts & I did my fair share of using textspeak in the 90's but I think there's no need for it now. Particularly now we use apps & messaging services where space is not limited & you can witter away to your heart's content free of charge.

Tis lazy & you run the risk of people not knowing what you mean.

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Kerberos · 08/12/2014 12:21

k

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LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 08/12/2014 12:25

I have limited texts and still have a pay as you go (I seriously need to get out of the 90's...) so end up paying for 2 texts. Even I see that as lazy!

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Topseyt · 08/12/2014 12:43

I agree. I can't stand text speak at all though. I can understand how it developed and why, but I hate it with a passion and never use it myself.

In fact, I can't really be bothered at all with reading stuff written in such a fashion.

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PedlarsSpanner · 08/12/2014 12:44

yy ISWYM

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LadyLuck10 · 08/12/2014 12:46

Yanbu, I hate the HBD too ( Happy birthday ). It's absolutely lazy.

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ouryve · 08/12/2014 12:46

You are being unreasonable because you obviously couldn't be bothered to write "Am I being unreasonable?" in full.

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ApocalypseThen · 08/12/2014 13:03

It actually sounds really ungrateful and approaching an insult to me. Very offhand, the least possible effort, almost as if the thing for which you are giving thanks is barely worth your while to acknowledge.

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NoImSpartacus · 08/12/2014 13:14

You lot are way too sensitive. I am really busy at work and it's actually much quicker for me to type TVM as a reply to the deluge of emails I receive, surely that's preferable than not conveying gratitude at all! It's not obligatory to be polite after all. I think where I work everyone appreciates how busy we all are and if a 'thank you' is forthcoming I don't think anyone cares what format it's in. Glad I don't work with you lot!

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december12 · 08/12/2014 13:16

I don't know. If a thank you really matters then it shouldn't be done by text/email/facebook anyway

If it's just a way to acknowledge you've received something then it's fine.

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TheChandler · 08/12/2014 13:18

Never heard of that, but it actually sounds rather weird. But only in the way that writing "dr" all the time instead of the word "doctor" is, for that whole 4 letter saving. Its almost as if some people don't know its an abbreviation.

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WorraLiberty · 08/12/2014 13:19

I agree it's lazy.

I had a facebook message the other day from a friend who simply put "GM"

I had no clue what it meant til my ds said it meant 'Good Morning'.

What's the fucking point in starting a conversation, if you cant be bothered to type? Confused

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DoJo · 08/12/2014 13:20

It depends - if it's for a birthday present then it's lazy, if its a courtesy response to someone doing their job, it's fine IMO.

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MissBattleaxe · 08/12/2014 13:47

You are being unreasonable because you obviously couldn't be bothered to write "Am I being unreasonable?" in full. I take your point, but then neither could Mumsnet!

NoImSpartacus, I disagree. I think being polite IS obligatory, even more so at work.

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MissBattleaxe · 08/12/2014 13:49

Yanbu, I hate the HBD too ( Happy birthday ). It's absolutely lazy.

Is that a new thing? That's shocking! May as well say "you are not worth typing more than three letters for."

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marryj · 08/12/2014 13:52

Yadnbu. Ikwym I h8 it. Mil and dh does it, I thought about ltb then I took a siob and sat down with EWCM.

Imho

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MissBattleaxe · 08/12/2014 15:46

Ooh marryj, that hurt my brain!

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NoImSpartacus · 08/12/2014 16:42

NoImSpartacus, I disagree. I think being polite IS obligatory, even more so at work.

You might 'think' being polite is obligatory at work, but it's not, is it! Saying please and thank you, or even TU or TVM over email or text isn't mandatory, it's just 'nice'.

For what it's worth I'm v polite and v friendly be it at work or out of work, but I'm v polite and V busy. My point is that it's NOT obligatory to be polite, civil, yes, but not 'polite', so if I reply 'TVM' to an email, I've actually taken the time to do it (even if it's not much time I grant you) so that's really my choice to be polite, so if some over sensitive bugger takes offence to my being polite, that's really their problem and not mine! The way I look at it is at least I am extending my gratitude. I work with LOADS of people who don't say thank you over email!

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usualsuspectsparkly3 · 08/12/2014 16:45

DILLIGAF

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MissBattleaxe · 08/12/2014 20:24

But Thanks and Ty take about the same amount of time to type and Ty says "You're not worthy of the time it takes to type "thank you"", therefore diminishing the thank you to pointlessness.

I don't think people who don't like it are being over sensitive. I think the day we're all too busy to use the words thank you is a sad day indeed.

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GoringBit · 08/12/2014 20:29

YANBU.

YW.

HTH.

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DiseasesOfTheSheep · 08/12/2014 21:37

Depends on the context - I use ty occasionally as an informal and low key method of offering thanks - like cheers. For instance, if I were given a present or offered a lift, I would write (and say!) thank you kindly (because I channel my inner Mountie). However, if someone said something on t'internet like "aw your dog is cute", I might say "ty!" in response as to reply with extensive and heartfelt thanks seems a little... weird in that context Grin

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Mrsstarlord · 08/12/2014 21:39

My MIL used to write 'fr mam' in her cards. Not from....fr

None of us have any idea why...

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