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AIBU to think ty instead of Thank You is lazy?

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MissBattleaxe Mon 08-Dec-14 12:02:42

That's it really. If you're grateful for something, just write thank you or thanks. Writing ty means "I can't be arsed to give you more than a nanosecond and I'm too busy for manners."

I see this a lot on FB and in emails and texts and I can't help thinking "Nobody's so busy they can't write a word!"

What's the world coming to? I'm hoiking a heck of a bosom here.

katese11 Mon 08-Dec-14 12:10:30

YANBU with autocorrect I can write thanks in a second. Even ta is better than ty

MissBattleaxe Mon 08-Dec-14 12:12:47

Exactly katse11. It's like damning with faint praise.

MagratsHair Mon 08-Dec-14 12:19:57

Yep I hate it.

I think it comes from the old textspeak where you were limited to 360 characters per text or else you paid for 2 texts & I did my fair share of using textspeak in the 90's but I think there's no need for it now. Particularly now we use apps & messaging services where space is not limited & you can witter away to your heart's content free of charge.

Tis lazy & you run the risk of people not knowing what you mean.

Kerberos Mon 08-Dec-14 12:21:44


LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Mon 08-Dec-14 12:25:10

I have limited texts and still have a pay as you go (I seriously need to get out of the 90's...) so end up paying for 2 texts. Even I see that as lazy!

Topseyt Mon 08-Dec-14 12:43:20

I agree. I can't stand text speak at all though. I can understand how it developed and why, but I hate it with a passion and never use it myself.

In fact, I can't really be bothered at all with reading stuff written in such a fashion.

PedlarsSpanner Mon 08-Dec-14 12:44:37


ouryve Mon 08-Dec-14 12:46:24

You are being unreasonable because you obviously couldn't be bothered to write "Am I being unreasonable?" in full.

LadyLuck10 Mon 08-Dec-14 12:46:24

Yanbu, I hate the HBD too ( Happy birthday ). It's absolutely lazy.

ApocalypseThen Mon 08-Dec-14 13:03:54

It actually sounds really ungrateful and approaching an insult to me. Very offhand, the least possible effort, almost as if the thing for which you are giving thanks is barely worth your while to acknowledge.

NoImSpartacus Mon 08-Dec-14 13:14:04

You lot are way too sensitive. I am really busy at work and it's actually much quicker for me to type TVM as a reply to the deluge of emails I receive, surely that's preferable than not conveying gratitude at all! It's not obligatory to be polite after all. I think where I work everyone appreciates how busy we all are and if a 'thank you' is forthcoming I don't think anyone cares what format it's in. Glad I don't work with you lot!

december12 Mon 08-Dec-14 13:16:59

I don't know. If a thank you really matters then it shouldn't be done by text/email/facebook anyway

If it's just a way to acknowledge you've received something then it's fine.

TheChandler Mon 08-Dec-14 13:18:42

Never heard of that, but it actually sounds rather weird. But only in the way that writing "dr" all the time instead of the word "doctor" is, for that whole 4 letter saving. Its almost as if some people don't know its an abbreviation.

WorraLiberty Mon 08-Dec-14 13:19:29

I agree it's lazy.

I had a facebook message the other day from a friend who simply put "GM"

I had no clue what it meant til my ds said it meant 'Good Morning'.

What's the fucking point in starting a conversation, if you cant be bothered to type? confused

DoJo Mon 08-Dec-14 13:20:26

It depends - if it's for a birthday present then it's lazy, if its a courtesy response to someone doing their job, it's fine IMO.

MissBattleaxe Mon 08-Dec-14 13:47:02

You are being unreasonable because you obviously couldn't be bothered to write "Am I being unreasonable?" in full. I take your point, but then neither could Mumsnet!

NoImSpartacus, I disagree. I think being polite IS obligatory, even more so at work.

MissBattleaxe Mon 08-Dec-14 13:49:06

Yanbu, I hate the HBD too ( Happy birthday ). It's absolutely lazy.

Is that a new thing? That's shocking! May as well say "you are not worth typing more than three letters for."

marryj Mon 08-Dec-14 13:52:06

Yadnbu. Ikwym I h8 it. Mil and dh does it, I thought about ltb then I took a siob and sat down with EWCM.


MissBattleaxe Mon 08-Dec-14 15:46:44

Ooh marryj, that hurt my brain!

NoImSpartacus Mon 08-Dec-14 16:42:08

NoImSpartacus, I disagree. I think being polite IS obligatory, even more so at work.

You might 'think' being polite is obligatory at work, but it's not, is it! Saying please and thank you, or even TU or TVM over email or text isn't mandatory, it's just 'nice'.

For what it's worth I'm v polite and v friendly be it at work or out of work, but I'm v polite and V busy. My point is that it's NOT obligatory to be polite, civil, yes, but not 'polite', so if I reply 'TVM' to an email, I've actually taken the time to do it (even if it's not much time I grant you) so that's really my choice to be polite, so if some over sensitive bugger takes offence to my being polite, that's really their problem and not mine! The way I look at it is at least I am extending my gratitude. I work with LOADS of people who don't say thank you over email!

usualsuspectsparkly3 Mon 08-Dec-14 16:45:21


MissBattleaxe Mon 08-Dec-14 20:24:18

But Thanks and Ty take about the same amount of time to type and Ty says "You're not worthy of the time it takes to type "thank you"", therefore diminishing the thank you to pointlessness.

I don't think people who don't like it are being over sensitive. I think the day we're all too busy to use the words thank you is a sad day indeed.

GoringBit Mon 08-Dec-14 20:29:13




DiseasesOfTheSheep Mon 08-Dec-14 21:37:13

Depends on the context - I use ty occasionally as an informal and low key method of offering thanks - like cheers. For instance, if I were given a present or offered a lift, I would write (and say!) thank you kindly (because I channel my inner Mountie). However, if someone said something on t'internet like "aw your dog is cute", I might say "ty!" in response as to reply with extensive and heartfelt thanks seems a little... weird in that context grin

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