Basically dp and I are getting married.
It will be a simple affair as we really do just want the marriage side of things rather than the debt of a glorified party.
Anyway, dp's parents (as we are, I might add) are quite thrifty. It was a shock to both of us that they have even offered to put finances into our wedding kitty.
My problem is that, whilst we want a simple affair, there are a couple of things I would like to be part of our big day. We have booked an 'all in' package at a golf club (sounds horrid, but in fact quite beautiful)
So my problem is that they will dislike our choices for where money is spent on our wedding. I really would like dd and cousin to be wearing matching gowns as bridesmaids, and although my dress is not expensive, feel they would look at it as elaborate and condemn me for it.
Mil to be has already suggested I look through charity shops for my dress as they have often have some nice ones. And said that it doesn't matter about the bridesmaids.
Bare in mind that I have budgeted well, all 3 dresses I found only come to a little over £150!!
Fil to be has suggested that we get married in a registry office and just get guests to pay for their own meals at a local restaurant. (He doesn't yet know we have been paying for our ceremony-dinner and disco-photographer-included package for 6 months and will be for the next 6 until our wedding day)
However good their intentions, I feel that the day might be marred by their disapproving looks if we accept the money and continue with our plans as they stand. And I would feel forever indebted to them.
Besides it makes me feel awful that I have no parents who can make the same offer, like I bring less to our relationship and I have always been financially independent!!!
So basically AIBU? Probably am
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splodgeses · 07/12/2014 10:38
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