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To think that if you sponsor someone then it's their job to collect the funds?

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NoSundayWorkingPlease Thu 04-Dec-14 22:22:19

There's a woman in my department that I've thought for a while was being a bit 'funny' with me. Nothing too obvious, just a bit brusque and offhand. I only know her to say hello to and don't work with her too often so haven't given it much thought, and thought maybe I was just being a bit paranoid.

Anyway things came to a head today. Someone was doing a lunch run to a sandwich shop, so I gave my order, then went in my bag and realised I'd left my purse at home.
So, I went over and apologised and cancelled my order. She asked why and said not to be silly, she'd pay and I could give her the money back. So I thanked her, and she said she'd pop over tomorrow to get the cash.

Then the woman who I mentioned above, who happened to be sitting next to her, went 'hmmpph! You'll be lucky' shock to colleague.

So I asked her what that was supposed to mean and she said well i'd still not paid her money owed so I obviously couldn't be trusted.

It turns out that in August I put my name on a form that came around the department and sponsored her for a fiver for some charity walk she was doing. It took me a couple of minutes to remember, but I did...I pledged the money and that was the last I've heared. I just haven't thought of it since.

I did a hmm face and asked why on Earth she hadn't just reminded me after she'd done the walk. She has my email address, I work in the same department, she sees me at least a couple of times a week and knows where I really wouldn't have taken much.

This is completely ur according to I made the commitment, I should have ensured she was paid and it's not down to her to 'chase' me.

Aibu to think that if you ask people to sponsor you, you should also take responsibility for collecting money once the sponsored event has taken place?

ScrambledEggAndToast Thu 04-Dec-14 22:28:15

I would have thought in an office environment, a quick email to all the sponsors, either individually or as a group, would have been the perfect way to remind people. I doubt I would remember sponsoring someone weeks after the event!

MsAdorabelleDearheartVonLipwig Thu 04-Dec-14 22:32:56

Blimey yes, if you can go around asking for sponsorship then you can go back around and collect your money in. Of course it's not up to you to chase her to give her money. If she wants it she needs to collect it up. How would you be expected to remember when the event even took place? confused

DoubleValiumLattePlease Thu 04-Dec-14 22:34:30

YANBU - not at all. She sounds like the kind of person who thrives on this kind of petty drama that could so easily have been solved if she just got off her huffy butt and reminded you! If I were you it'd be a long frosty Friday in Fucksville before I sponsored her again either!

timetoplay Thu 04-Dec-14 22:39:03

SIBU, it's her job to collect it, not yours to chase up. She sounds like hard work and a bit of a diva!

HappenstanceMarmite Thu 04-Dec-14 22:46:33

Totally her responsibility. Passive aggressive mare. I'm so glad I don't work with office drama divas any more

kissmethere Thu 04-Dec-14 22:57:00

Blimey drama lama and shear rude with it.
What an a hole! Tell her not to bother asking you again and add she obviously doesn't know the etiquette and procedure to complete a sponsored task.

daisychain01 Thu 04-Dec-14 23:03:33

Tell her she is living in the dark ages, she should have used and collected the money automatically. Not your fault she can't get get act together!

Ifyourawizardwhydouwearglasses Thu 04-Dec-14 23:09:25

DoubleValium you just made me actually lol....'long frosty Friday in Fucksville.' I'm having that!


Puzzledandpissedoff Thu 04-Dec-14 23:27:14

Of course YNBU - cheeky cow

Mind you, it beats many of the folk where I used to work; they expected you to pay when you signed the form and then often didn't bother doing whatever-it-was ... why put themselves out when they'd already got the cash?? hmm

DoJo Thu 04-Dec-14 23:50:42

SIBU - why on earth didn't she just ask? Did everyone else who sponsored her really write it down on their calendars and rush to give her the cash as soon as she crossed the finish line? She sounds like a twat, and when you give her the cash you should ask her not to come to you for sponsorship money again if you are going to be expected to devote energy to remembering when she's doing the bloody thing as well as forking over money.

Yanbu, she should have done something like sending round a photo of herself at the crossing lounge with a request for the money. Expecting you to just know when to pay is weird. Even if you'd known the date, how would you know she'd completed the challenge of she didn't say so?

WooWooOwl Fri 05-Dec-14 00:23:18

Clearly, YANBU. Work woman is a little crazy.

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut Fri 05-Dec-14 00:39:05

What?! Surely you pledge money on the condition somebody does something, they do it and tell you they have done it and then you pay.

What a twit. Sounds like she thinks they world revolves around her.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Fri 05-Dec-14 07:46:54

She's an arse.

FunkyBoldRibena Fri 05-Dec-14 08:18:04

Aw bless, she thinks you are an awesome mind reader.

Either that or she is a twonk.

londonrach Fri 05-Dec-14 08:26:32

Yanbu op. Why didnt she ask

eltsihT Fri 05-Dec-14 08:39:35


This is exactly why I don't sponsor people unless I have the cash on me at the time. I have been stung once too often. Although I do get a few hmm looks when I ask them to come back tomorrow when I have cash

Fallingovercliffs Fri 05-Dec-14 11:31:34

YANBU. There are frequently sponsor cards left in the kitchen where I work. If people didn't remind me I genuinely wouldn't remember that I'd put my name down.

Staff here just send an email around on the lines of :

Thank you to everyone who sponsored me in the women's marathon. I have raised xxxx amount for cancer research. If anyone still wishes to donate, I will be sending in my final amount next Friday.

YANBU and your colleague needs to get a grip.

Roomba Fri 05-Dec-14 12:25:59


She sounds like a passive aggressive pain in the arse.

PicaK Fri 05-Dec-14 13:10:13

What a silly cow! (Her not you)

5Foot5 Fri 05-Dec-14 13:58:45

She is nuts. Of course it is her responsibility to go around and collect, or send an email around to everyone or something. I find it hard to believe that everyone else in the office remembered without prompting. Could there have been some conversation that you missed when she came in and said to the office as a whole "I did it guys, can you pay me what you owe me"?

Where I used to work the sponsorships came around with monotonous regularity but afterwards the sponsee(?) either collected or used JustGiving.

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