Due to the very sensitive nature of this post I have name-changed (sorry) but I really need to chat this through. I'm not sure whether AIBU is actually the right place for this either but I am hoping for traffic.
My daughter is in her first year at a London University. She is in uni accommodation with 100's of others (all split between several buildings on same campus).
On her floor there are approx. 18 students with a male/female split.
They all seem like a very friendly and sociable bunch with no real issues until recently.
One of the male students has become more and more aggressive towards the female students and there have been a lot of misogynistic comments etc. A few of the female students have said that they feel very uncomfortable around him and some of the male students have approached him about his behaviour.
Over the past few weeks however, things have escalated. He accompanied one girl back to her room and attempted to rape her. She managed to defend herself and get him off and he left.
Other girls have reported that he would try to escort them back to their rooms and he seemed to pick out those that had been drinking heavily.
When challenged, he became very aggressive.
This has now been reported to the college and they seem to have acted very quickly. All of the students involved were asked to provide written statements (including my DD and several male students who have witnessed some of his behaviour).
He has been spoken to by the staff and tomorrow he will be moved out of this accommodation into a nearby block (on the same campus).
The girl who he attempted to rape has received a lot of support but has been told by the college that if she reports the attempted rape to the police and he is subsequently found 'not guilty' (which is likely as it's her word against his) then she could find herself expelled from the university.
So she has decided not to report it
I'm sure that the college have/are doing all they can but I feel so uneasy about this.
I think it's appalling that she is being threatened with expulsion.
He is now going to be moved into a new accommodation block with female students who no doubt, will be unaware of his reputation.
My DD and the other female students do not feel safe
I'm not really sure what I am asking here, I just feel very uncomfortable with the outcome but genuinely don't know what else the college can do.
Given the number of people who have reported his behaviour, don't they have enough to expel him and deport him back to his home country?
Your calm and reasoned thoughts please x
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