Hi all, I have never been on here before but really need to make sure I am not losing my marbles in the later stages of pregnancy.
I have been with my partner for over 4 years who had previously been married for a long time. When we met he assured me the marriage had been over a long time, however events that have followed have led me to believe he lied which i guess is by the by now.
We have a beautiful 2 year old daughter and I am due to give birth on 28th December. He has just started finalizing divorce details which has caused no end of upset in our relationship but glad we are finally getting somewhere. However I am definitely the blamed party from his ex's perspective and dont feel he has ever had my back and been honest about how we got together. They have 2 older children together 15 & 18 and after meeting last night to discuss their impending divorce he has told me this morning he is going over to his exes house Christmas day to see the children for a couple of hours ( I know it will be longer than this) and he hasn't done it in previous years. Given my stage of pregnancy and that we had agreed a 2nd Christmas day with his children and our daughter I am devastated that he could even suggest this. My immediate reaction was "your not going and leaving us" which has now resulted in a huge fight and I am deeply hurt.
He is a stubborn man and I have always been expected to roll over and elt him continue to play happy families there and if I dare say anything it results in a huge fight. He has never put me first and I don't think he ever will but for all of this I do love him and when we get on its great yet i am not willing to spend mine and my childrens lives feeling 2nd best and having to accommodate him playing the perfect man to the wife he walked out on.
If anybody has had a similar experience, I would really appreciate any advise on what to do or how i should respond to these ongoing hurtful scenarios.
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FLPmummanumber2 · 03/12/2014 12:21
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