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Henriettacat Wed 03-Dec-14 00:51:16

What could be worse than not getting a single response to my post.

Several times I have had the urge to start a post, to open a new thread and even to type a line or two.... But then erased it all and skulked back to lurking.

What greater rejection could there be?
Aibu to even ask the question?

BrowersBlues Wed 03-Dec-14 00:56:27

Henrietta, here is a response to your post so you haven't been rejected. Heading to bed though so can't stay on. Good night!

UmmAbdillah Wed 03-Dec-14 00:58:07

what greater rejection could there be? Are you serious? We're talking about strangers on the Internet - I can think of greater rejections.

YANBU but YABABO (a bit odd)

You often see posters "bump" their threads to get replies, sometimes they just get missed. It's not a big deal.

Oh look... You have a reply now! Wasn't so bad posting was it? smile

MrsTerryPratchett Wed 03-Dec-14 01:00:17

Well I'm not replying. <ironic>

Henriettacat Wed 03-Dec-14 01:01:20

I accept that I am a bit odd, which I guess is less bad than being unreasonable.
Thank you both, there may be worse things than not getting a response to a new conversation on Mumsnet, but at least i dont need to worry about that tonight

Bulbasaur Wed 03-Dec-14 07:55:12

If you're afraid of rejection on MN, you should probably see a GP about anxiety or something similar. How are you with people face to face?

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Wed 03-Dec-14 07:56:21

Sometimes on AIBU, getting responses is worse

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Wed 03-Dec-14 07:57:10

She needs to see a GP?for starting a lighthearted thread about dipping her toe into waters of MN? Seriously?

Errrr2012 Wed 03-Dec-14 08:01:25

smilei love it when people take OP totally at face value!!

Another reply *henrietta!

Bulbasaur Wed 03-Dec-14 08:05:42

She needs to see a GP?for starting a lighthearted thread about dipping her toe into waters of MN? Seriously?

I can't tell the difference between people with genuine issues and people that are joking anymore. Have you read MN? Half the people that make ludicrous statements are being 100% serious.

crumblebumblebee Wed 03-Dec-14 08:32:53

Hello henrietta. smile

MN is strange all the time sometimes, certain threads get lots of responses and I've seen really interesting discussions get ignored. It depends which people are online. I have shamelessly bumped some of my own threads if I've posted them at a time that I think might not get a lot of responses.

Frogme Wed 03-Dec-14 08:36:23

Also it depends on the tone of the first few posters. If the consensus at the beginning had been different then the thread could have gone completely differently iykwim.

Behoove Wed 03-Dec-14 08:38:38

<ignores Henrietta>


AnotherGirlsParadise Wed 03-Dec-14 08:39:27

UmmAbdillah YABABO, love it grin

Eminybob Wed 03-Dec-14 08:43:40

I have posted of loads of stuff with no replies. Usually on specialist boards though. I recently asked a question on the pushchairs board and got zero replies, apart from my own 4 (blush) bumps!
Posting on aibu will guarantee you replies. Not necessarily the ones you want though.

Henriettacat Wed 03-Dec-14 13:47:48

Thank you all for being so uncharcteristically nice.
I do have anxiety issues as well, so it was a good first conversation for me

LurkingHusband Wed 03-Dec-14 13:57:52

<Stewart Lee mode>
Of course, there's only one thing worse than no replies, and that's a single solitary reply. Which suggests that while you are possibly being unreasonable, or reasonable, you will never know for sure ...

BigRedBall Wed 03-Dec-14 14:02:21


<tumble weed blows across the screen>


Fallingovercliffs Wed 03-Dec-14 14:06:48

Not getting a single response is disappointing. What's worse though is when some obtuse poster misunderstands your post, flames you for something you never said, and a load of sheep join in. Now that's infuriating angry

Wassailywassailywassaily Wed 03-Dec-14 14:13:14

I'm never brave enough to bump my own posts. Sometimes I post and then duck in case someone deliberately misunderstands and flames.

I have received a couple of mild roasting too but am still here and have occasionally even agreed that the flamers had a point.

grimbletart Wed 03-Dec-14 14:42:29

Here's another downer - being the last word on a thread, which means:

You're too late - the train has moved on
Everyone is bored with the topic
You have posted something so silly it is not worth responding
Your devastating wit and erudition has silenced everyone

Somehow, I doubt it's the last reason….

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