I'll try to keep this brief. My dh, 2 dd's and myself are my Dsis' only family since losing our dParents and grandparents. Dsis and her bf live together and have been together for 4 years.
For the last 4 years they have spent the first half of the day at our house and have lunch here then have gone to bf's parents house and had another sitting of Turkey and all the trimmings. This has made my Dsis feel quite ill and I think it is insanity.
As our kids are very young we have lunch at 1ish then do more present opening then pudding around 4. This has been when Dsis and her bf have left to go for round 2.
I suggested they did year about but bf's mum insists she must see her son each year. Dsis would be happy to do alternate years but knows she would just end up never being with us - where she would prefer to be anyway.
Only Dsis drives, not her bf or his parents or his siblings.
This year bf's mum wants them to start off the morning with her, taking the grandparents over, then going to us then back to them to be ready to eat by 3.
I've said in not going to rush about just so that bf mum is content, whilst we all have indigestion.
I suggested Dsis comes here alone but she is needed to be the grandparent taxi service. They insist on that then rub it in that she can't have a drink on Christmas Day. Her bf also wants to come to our house to see the kids.
I think they need to stand up to his mum and just do alternate years. I've never known anyone to have two sittings of Christmas dinner just to appease families.
They could of course come and watch us eat but that just seems odd. I don't really want to start Christmas dinner at 4 once they leave as then id have to do something for lunch for the kids. We usually just have leftovers later.
Any other bright ideas of how this could be solved? If I was my Dsis, I doubt I could put up with the mummy's boy but they are in love. I think they treat my Dsis badly at times.
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They really can't have two Christmas dinners on one day, surely?
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Hopingforpeace · 02/12/2014 23:11
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