I'm at my wits end here. H walked out on my DS (3) and I in July due to his depression. It came as a complete shock to me but in hindsight the signs were there.
Since the beginning of the year he has been partying hard, drinking excessively and every couple of months taking drugs (coke, ketamine, MDMA). I am very anti drugs - I knew H had a few years of recreational drug use behind him when we met 8 years ago and he assured me this was in the past.
Since leaving us I know he's taken stuff on nights out and it makes me so furious. I can't believe a dad would take drugs not knowing 100% what's In them, risking being caught and a criminal record.
This weekend was one of the weekends that he took coke. It was on Saturday night and he knew he was meant to be looking after DS Sunday afternoon/evening. My DM has just been diognosed with cancer and I thought I could at least count on him to show up not hungover/on a comedown so I could spend time with my mum. When he showed up looking god awful I lost it (not In front of DS, waited until he was in bed) and said that when he moves out of his parents house and into a place of his own, DS would not be going over there. I just do not trust him to not have his druggy mates over and accidently have things fall out of pockets etc. I also said I would be getting legal advice on our whole situation as I just don't know what to do.
He absolutely adores DS and I know this hit him hard. But instead of giving him the wake up call to say he would seek more help for his depression/dependency, he is furious with me. Claims he was on the right path to feeling better and me being like this has set him back to the depressed state he was in a few months ago. He somehow thinks that him being honest by telling me he's taken things makes it better because he's being honest.
So have I overreacted? It just terrifies me something happening to my darling DS. I also worry I'm going to have pushed him over the edge, he'll sink further into depression and he'll do something stupid. It's all such a mess.
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To not allow DS round his dad's new house due to drug use
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Titsyandmitzy · 02/12/2014 22:18
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