I hav 4 dc's , dd almost 16 and 3 ds' s 12, 10 and 6.
my dd's father isnt involved really in her life, she sees him maybe once a year, he doesnt buy cards or presents and never sees her on occasions.
hes an alcoholic and currently in hospital with liver failure and other problems, hes been told he has 6 months to live.
this has hit my daughter so hard, loosing a dad shes never really known and realization that shes never been a priority in his life.
my exdh (the boys father) raised her as his own but after we split 4/5 yrs ago hes dropped her, wants nothing to do with her.
so to get to the point of this AIBU, xmas day this year is just me and dd, the 3 boys are with there dad, they will b with me boxing day and that will b my xmas day with them.
exdh asked me will dd be having her xmas pressies with me xmas dad or waiting till boys r home boxing day, I told him (and honestly thought he would get it) she would get her presents xmas day (always roughly same budget for all 4) but on boxing day she would get sum extra, sumthing special to open as boys open there presents.
iv brought her a locket with a photo of her dad holding her as a baby and im doing her an extra stocking.
the ex has gone balistic, favrortising her over the boys, im a bad parent, he phoned my parents to moan and they agree with him.
apparently they should all b equal and yes to sum extent I agree but the boys will get double presents, she doesnt hav her dad to spoil her and also with all thats going on I feel the need to spoil her.
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