To give this xmas present to nephew

[TaytoCrisp]

I was absolutely delighted with the xmas present I purchased for my nephew (4). He has recently been diagnosed with autism and other issues, and I wasn’t sure what he would really like until I came across a giant piano floor mat which I think he will love. The problem is that my sister, his other aunt, has got him the same gift – just a different make (along with something else as she is going overboard this year!).

I had planned on posting my gift to him in a few days as we live in a different country. Of course it is not ideal for the little fella to receive two of these, and it would be tricky to bring mine back if he preferred the other one. I was so pleased with this present though, and really don’t want to go searching for another – it is hard to know what to buy for him as he already has so much, and does not seem to be that interested in lego etc at the moment.

AIBU to give this gift anyway? I spoke with my sister who is not keen on returning her mat either understandably…

[Only1scoop]

Well makes sense for one of you to return.... as its pointless both giving him the same if you know in advance.

[CleanLinesSharpEdges]

Give it anyway. If we got two of anything, one was sent to grandparents house for when we were over there.

[BirdintheWings]

I could actually see two identical of these being useful for 'play and copy' games to encourage interaction (a parent could play a tune and he could play one back, or vice versa) but then I thought of DS's likely reaction if the two weren't in tune with each other...

[Jinglebells99]

I would suggest one of you returns the gift to the shop. And as you say, it would be easier to return your gift now rather than have it posted back to you to return. Is one make better than the other or preferable in some way? I would ask the parents of your nephew what they suggest and also for other present ideas. Sometimes our relatives have got presents a little wrong for our children, too young or just slightly off key, and it's such a shame when they have wasted their money on something that won't be appreciated.

[InfinitySeven]

It seems a bit unfair on him to get him two of the same thing, but if you'd both like to give the gift, go for it. At least it's something that he could theoretically use two of.

Your sister might change her mind when he's actually received your gift anyway.

[AliMonkey]

Why doesn't one of you take it back and you then give it as a joint present along with something else?

[TaytoCrisp]

Thanks very much for the suggestions ladies.

Great ideas on how two mats could be useful - one could go to grannys house! Also, we should compare the makes and see what might suit best as jinglebells says. I will tell my sis-in-law and ask for some ideas... I was just very excited at getting him a surprise i think he would love... but probably better really that he has two different pressies.

Many thanks.