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to think a basic rule of parenting is to be able to spell your DC's name correctly?

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TaliZorahVasNormandy Mon 01-Dec-14 21:10:41

DD had a xmas card from her Dad and his new partner, he obviously wrote it as I recognise the hand writing as his and hes spelled her name wrong.

Its not a difficult name to spell.

FYI hes a bit of an absent dad, so I really shouldnt expect too much.

Waltonswatcher Mon 01-Dec-14 21:13:07

I'm amused to tell you that my 15 yr old had to point out to me that I was teaching my 2 yr old the wrong way to spell her name! I substituted an E for an A. Seriously ...

ThereIsACarInTheKitchen Mon 01-Dec-14 21:14:31

Are there multiple ways to spell the name? It shouldn't matter though so I don't think YABU. He should at least make an effort.

Only1scoop Mon 01-Dec-14 21:15:24


raltheraffe Mon 01-Dec-14 21:15:58

I hope DD is not old enough to read and recognise the error.

Not a good show. At least DD has one parent who cares enough to spell her name correct.

TaliZorahVasNormandy Mon 01-Dec-14 21:16:06

Theres 2 ways to spell it, one more popular than the other.

SallyMcgally Mon 01-Dec-14 21:16:19

My (wonderful and very devoted) father still has to phone me and ask me what my middle name is . . .

Discopanda Mon 01-Dec-14 21:16:29

I'd just be impressed he remembered to send a card!

TaliZorahVasNormandy Mon 01-Dec-14 21:17:05

Shes 7 and she can read her own name, when she noticed, I had to make a joke of it, luckily she didnt seem that bothered.

2kidsintow Mon 01-Dec-14 21:17:06

DH is endlessly reminded by DD2 that when he signed her out of school one afternoon after they called to say she was ill, he got the spelling of her name wrong.

SallyMcgally Mon 01-Dec-14 21:17:17

But I would expect him to get my first name right. YANBU.

MrsTerryPratchett Mon 01-Dec-14 21:17:48

Jeepers. Is there are reason? Like he liked the other version or he didn't choose the name or is a total arsehole?

TaliZorahVasNormandy Mon 01-Dec-14 21:18:23

Disco I can give him a credit worth a tesco clubcard point for that.

ThereIsACarInTheKitchen Mon 01-Dec-14 21:18:39

SallyMcgally I actually knew someone whose father never remembered what her first name was and had to call her to ask. I was always a bit hmm about that.

TaliZorahVasNormandy Mon 01-Dec-14 21:19:47

Her name was my suggestion, he fully agreed right from when we knew she was a girl.

At risk here, the name is Phoebe and he spells it Pheobe.

LynetteScavo Mon 01-Dec-14 21:20:39

Well, I knew someone who couldn't decide how to pronounce her child's name. Sometimes she said it one way, sometimes another.

The best bit was, she had made the name up.

Weirdly, I quite like both pronunciations, they're both nice names. grin

PurpleSwift Mon 01-Dec-14 21:22:12

With that in mind, it would probably mildly irritate me. Not enough to post on AIBU though

LynetteScavo Mon 01-Dec-14 21:22:22

I can see how he makes the need to point it out to him. Before he gets a tattoo The longer it goes on, the worse it'll be.

MrsTerryPratchett Mon 01-Dec-14 21:23:41

I think there is one way to spell that name and it's the first way. Google agrees. He isn't dyslexic is he? <clutches straws>

SallyMcgally Mon 01-Dec-14 21:23:55

car grin
OP- that is a beautiful name, and easy to spell. YANBU.

TheNumberfaker Mon 01-Dec-14 21:24:36

Err, how else can you spell Phoebe?

TaliZorahVasNormandy Mon 01-Dec-14 21:25:32

I have pointed it out, he takes no notice of me. If he gets a tattoo of it, thats his business and he can explain when shes older.

TaliZorahVasNormandy Mon 01-Dec-14 21:26:25

No he isnt dyslexic, hes actually quite good at spelling.

ThereIsACarInTheKitchen Mon 01-Dec-14 21:27:04

Tbf OP I can think of several people who would probably make the same mistake. Just point out to him that that is not how you spell it.

ThereIsACarInTheKitchen Mon 01-Dec-14 21:27:23

Never mind, x posts.

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