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to think that looking after sick children while sick yourself is the worst part of parenting?

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bedraggledmumoftwo Mon 01-Dec-14 06:56:55

We have just got back from holiday, i have had d&v for seven days, but thought i was getting over it until i spent last night puking. 1yo has been sick (usually on me) for three days. Then i was snuggling with toddler on plane when she threw up in my face last night ( may be cause of my renewed sickness). I just don't know how to cope with two sick children when i am diving for the loo myself. I don't think i ever appreciated everything my mum did for me. Obviously i am just sucking it up and trying not to throw up on them or pass out, but at the end of the day i want my own mum! Aibu to assume this has always been the way and i just never saw it as a child?! Any tips for coping?

MrsItsNoworNotatAll Mon 01-Dec-14 07:46:10

Isn't it awful!! Sorry to hear you and yours are ill. No tips really, just rest as much as possible. Difficult I know but it will pass xx

HKat Mon 01-Dec-14 08:04:19

I agree. It's nothing like what you've just had to deal with, but I have an absolutely stinking cold, complete with aches, pains, snots and general Bleurgh. That, coupled with the fact DP was on a long-arranged trip away this weekend meant toddler dd and I didn't get up to much, just wanted to lie on the sofa and feel sorry for myself! We did go to a Christmas type-thing yesterday but it was a real effort! Hope you feel better soon op

monkeymamma Mon 01-Dec-14 08:09:39

Was about to say yabu, there are far worse aspects to parenting (emotionally) but you have d&v so I'll forget all that and say YANBU! Feels like it'll never go away when you all have it :-( I find it so awful that now when I have a cold, however horrific, all I can think is 'at least it's not d&v'. Does it help at all to think if you have it now you won't at Christmas? D&v at Christmas is the worst especially if your fridge is full of whatever you last ate before barfing :-s

OwlCapone Mon 01-Dec-14 08:11:45

I agree completely. Closely followed by having to go about normal parenting whilst being sick yourself.

Obviously there are actually worse things but the sentiment is valid.

Fourarmsv2 Mon 01-Dec-14 08:20:43

I remember developing D&V (which turned out to be cryptosporidium) whilst DH was at sea (submariner). It was the worst couple of weeks of my life. Well, it was until DS2 went on to get chicken pox which brought on a blood disorder. He had crypto, a rota virus and chicken pox along with ITP which left him covered in bruises. Thankgooness I had recovered by then or I don't know what we'd have done as he was in hospital but still breastfed.

I hope you feel better soon (hugs)

Nocturne123 Mon 01-Dec-14 08:25:49

Aw bedraggled I feel for you . Have you a dp / dh or anyone who could even help you in the evening?

I had a 4 day migraine last week and it was hell trying to look after dd and ds sad .

You can't even just take a sick day and stay in bed . Hang in there thanksbrew

Nocturne123 Mon 01-Dec-14 08:27:16

Fourarm that sounds horrible ! What cool sounding job your dh has ( must be tough for you though)

Suddengeekgirl Mon 01-Dec-14 08:37:23

I can't decide if it's worse to be sick yourself and look after a poorly dc or a well dc who want to play and do stuff and all you want to do is curl up and cry!

I have sinusitis and felt like my head was going to explode last week. Dcs were fine. It was hard! blush

bedraggledmumoftwo Mon 01-Dec-14 08:54:03

Thanks all. I would love to think it was all over before Christmas, but sadly this is the third bout in a month, so this must be food poisoning, or we are working our way through all the strains of norovirus/rotavirus etc!

obviously we have had a few episodes over the last few years ( i nearly started an ' aibu to think having kids makes you sick?!" only a few weeks ago, but usually it seems to be staggered so that either i am relatively healthy and looking after them, or just trying to cope with them bouncing off the walls while i am sick. The combination is just a killer though! And the knowledge that i have two bags full of disgusting clothes to deal with from them both puking on me on the plane just fills me with horror. I am actually considering throwing them away but it is some of their favourites. Ugh.

yes i have a dh, he was supposed to be on a train for work at 6 am and not back till Fri but "luckily" he now has his head in the toilet so is staying put!

furcoatbigknickers Mon 01-Dec-14 08:56:51

I totally agree. You poor things. When dcs are ill, its copeable as you can care fir them but when your ill too... is there anyone who can help out? This too shall pass

Nocturne123 Mon 01-Dec-14 08:57:12

Oh no ! Hope you all feel better soon thanks

JoandMax Mon 01-Dec-14 09:01:38

It is truly horrific, you have my sympathy! 2 years ago me and both DCs had a sickness bug, DH was working abroad and my parents were on holiday so just us.

I have a memory of it being 2am and both DCs sitting in the bath crying and puking while i sat on the floor alternating puking in the loo and singing songs to cheer them up - it sends shivers down my spine to remember!!!

The next day I just threw out all their bedding (both covered their beds) and pjs and ordered new ones. A waste but I felt so awful I just couldn't contemplate cleaning it up.

Tips - have a bowl and towel in every room, keep the TV on and sleep whenever you can. If their clothes can be replaced easily chuck them!

KERALA1 Mon 01-Dec-14 09:04:32

Anyone that can help? I got (proper) flu with a 9 month old. Parents away dh just had 2 weeks off with same thing so had to work. Ended up going to stay with my wonderful aunt and uncle as I literally couldn't cope.

bedraggledmumoftwo Mon 01-Dec-14 09:35:59

Yes, think i will just chuck the worst stuff, tried opening the bag and had to throw it out the back door while i gagged. Hopefully it will freeze out there and get rid of the smell.

dd2 now asleep on me and dd1 snuggling watching ben and holly. Sent dh back to bed thinking i will have a nap when they both go down at lunchtime, fingers crossed they do!

EatShitDezza Mon 01-Dec-14 09:42:59

Oh god yes.

I had severe tonsillitis last year for 2 weeks. I was given medication that near enough sedated me. All while running after a 4 year old. Trying to entertain or even feed him while medicated up to the eye balls was fun.

In the end I had to beg his dad to help them his mum when he refused

basgetti Mon 01-Dec-14 09:47:11

YANBU, my DS is off school today with nasty bug including diarrhoea. I'm 37 weeks with unrelenting HG and I can't cope with it today. Feel like I'm on my last nerve. Hope you feel better soon OP.

dashoflime Mon 01-Dec-14 09:48:57

My personal worst is Healthy child- Sick Mum, but Sick child-Sick Mum is still pretty bad.

I remember sitting on the sofa holding DS, with a big pile of my T.Shirts and a big pile of Ds's Vests next to me. Each time one of us was sick, I'd change the clothes and add to the massive basket of vomit cloth. It was epic in its horribleness.

Since your DH is also ill- I suggest you tag team it. Four hour shift each with poorly children, then crawl to bed for the next four hours.

Is there anyone else who can help? I was explaining my horrible day to my childminder about a week later and she said "you should have called me- I'd have had him" It hadn't even occured to me at the time.

manchestermummy Mon 01-Dec-14 10:16:09

You poor thing.

We've had this.

DD2 up all night. DD1 started throwing up at 5.30. Got over it quickly. I started with it at noon. DD1 ended up getting me water and blankets. At 4 I demanded that DH leave work (he can finish at 4) but he didn't. When he came home at 6 I was completely ashen.

NickyEds Mon 01-Dec-14 10:55:05

YANBU- DS (11months) and I are both absolutely full of coldsad. Might be able to manage but I'm throwing up several times a day with morning all bloody day sickness. Poor DS has had every tea time for a week accompanied by a vomiting mum. You have my sympathies. I've been watching a lot of TV. So has DS (needs must). Doing sweet F.A. around the house. Poor (wonderful) OH has been seriously taking up the slack!!

meglet Mon 01-Dec-14 10:59:33


I'm an obsessive hand washer beause I daren't get sick at the same time as the dc's. So far it's only happened a couple of times, it's horrible sad.

Aeroflotgirl Mon 01-Dec-14 11:51:47

Its awful, I know the feeling, good it happened last year, first dd, then me, then dh, then ds. Look after yourself flowers

Bumpsadaisie Mon 01-Dec-14 12:19:41

I've just had likewise, me, five year old and toddler ill, all at the same time. Its really grim, especially with tines who become super demanding and clingy when they are ill, at a time you are least well equipped to cope with it!

Be kind to yourself and just plod on through as best you can. Let the kids do whatever they want and eat whatever they want. TV is your friends. If things are really miserable even a 15 min drive in the car can sometimes reset the mood a bit and help you get through till bedtime.

On the plus side when you are all well again life seems super great! grin

bedraggledmumoftwo Mon 01-Dec-14 12:47:15

Bumpsadaisie, that is exactly it, two tinies who are super clingy and demanding, plus don't understand so run around and need entertaining, then collapse! Right, naptime, hopefully for me too!

drive in the car would be good but i have been ill for so long and had exactly no sleep last night and don't think i would be safe to drive ��

pigsDOfly Mon 01-Dec-14 12:59:14

Oh yes, these times are just horrific.

My DC are all adults now, youngest is 27 with baby of her own, but I think I can remember every one of those sort of situations - horrendous food poisoning while breast feeding youngest being one of that immediately springs to mind. I remember lying on the bedroom floor just outside the bathroom (en suite) feeding her because I was frightened that if I stayed in bed I wouldn't get to the loo in time.

It will pass, honestly, although at the moment it probably doesn't feel like it will ever stop.

Much sympathy - not much help I know - wish you all better.

And as pp said when you're all well again you'll feel like you've won the lottery.

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