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To think it's odd to give other people's children advent calendar?

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Vijac Sun 30-Nov-14 18:22:58

I know this is a first world problem. My 3yo (just 3) has received advent calendars from both the neighbours and my mil. I have already got one too. Whilst obviously these are kind gifts, aibu to think that it's a bit of a strange gift. I don't really want my son to have multiple pieces of chocolate every day for the whole of December. But what am I meant to do with the calendars?!

stargirl1701 Sun 30-Nov-14 18:23:52

Donate to a food bank.

northernmummeh Sun 30-Nov-14 18:25:00

Save them for next year?
Send them to a women's refuge/shelter where kids may be who might not get one?
Food bank? Bit odd but chocolates chocolate
Take the chocolate out n save it for treats ?

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 30-Nov-14 18:26:07

Keep one for you and donate the others or pass on. It's sweet and no harm is meant by it.

People are just trying to be thoughtful

eeyoreeeyoreoh Sun 30-Nov-14 18:26:32

One each for you and DH plus a spare one. Happy days smile

TheAwfulDaughter Sun 30-Nov-14 18:28:11

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GraysAnalogy Sun 30-Nov-14 18:28:15

Yeah I wouldn't dream of getting someone's child an advent calendar.

MrsHathaway Sun 30-Nov-14 18:28:18

YANBU, it's weird. Either the parents want one (in which case they've probably already got one), or they don't (in which case nobody else should).

Possibly the grandparents could say in mid November "Can we get little Johnny his advent calendar this year?" But that didn't happen this year.

My children don't have an advent calendar, much less a chocolate one.We have an advent candle and an advent book instead. [smug] [lentils]

westcountrywoman Sun 30-Nov-14 18:28:28

I'm with you on this one. In previous years my in laws and parents have bought the DCs Advent calendars, as have we (DH & I). Three is ridiculous. I haven't bought them one this year which makes me a bit sad because they're my kids and it's my job to buy things like this but hey ho, it's me who doesn't want them to have so many.

cricketpitch Sun 30-Nov-14 18:28:44

Not odd at all - we had several given to us when the DCs were little - it was nice. But yes, donate if you don't need them

saoirse31 Sun 30-Nov-14 18:30:01

How is that a problem? donate if u don't want them

SomeSortOfDeliciousBiscuit Sun 30-Nov-14 18:31:07

My mum did this, only she's got a personalised one for DS, with his name piped onto the chocolate. I haven't even seen her for her to give it to us, so I just don't understand the point.

DS has ASD so no way am I going to introduce a second advent calendar part-way through the month.

SomeSortOfDeliciousBiscuit Sun 30-Nov-14 18:33:12

I can't donate the personalised one, or I would. I can't donate the one I've bought because DS chose it himself before my mum told me she'd bought one. It makes me all 'Argh!' because I feel like I should be grateful, but I'm not because it causes unnecessary stress.

zeezeek Sun 30-Nov-14 18:33:39

Mine have 3 each - one each that they bought themselves with their pocket money, one each from their step-sister and one each from my brother and sister in law. There would have been some from my parents as well - but we managed to stop them in time. The extra chocolate is really not a problem with a two parents hovering nearby each morning grin

kinkyfuckery Sun 30-Nov-14 18:36:33

It is a bit odd, but doesn't have to be a big deal.

You can either donate the excess if possible, or melt down all the chocolates to make cakes wink

BlueJuice Sun 30-Nov-14 18:37:04

Why on earth is it odd? And why should parents be the only ones to buy them?
This place gets stranger and stranger confused
Nothing at all wrong with giving your child an advent calendar, it's entirely up to you what you do with it.
I'd eat it

MishMooshAndMogwai Sun 30-Nov-14 18:39:27

Yes! I got flamed last year for saying it but I think it's weird!!

Yes it's lovely that people think of them etc but they only need 1 and it's a nice thing for the parents to get/child to chose themselves.

I think it's odd and, possibly selfishly, I was pretty put out and annoyed last year!

That was before all the advent calendar food bank hype but if it happens this year I'll donate them. Some of them came half way through the month ffs!

GraysAnalogy Sun 30-Nov-14 18:44:29

blue because obviously parents are going to buy them, why would they need surplus? confused

formerbabe Sun 30-Nov-14 18:46:43

The chocolates are extra one is hardly gonna do any harm!

LadyLuck10 Sun 30-Nov-14 18:46:53

Yabu how about being grateful so many people thought about him. I don't get this obsession on here about chocolate.

iwouldgoouttonight Sun 30-Nov-14 18:47:36

I was mildly irritated because my mil sent ones to the DCs and I'd already got them one each so I wish she'd told me she was going to. But I think it's more to do with my issues with mil than about the Advent calendars. wink

Alisvolatpropiis Sun 30-Nov-14 18:52:58

Give them away if you don't want them.

Three tiny pieces of chocolate won't kill him though.

OwlinaTree Sun 30-Nov-14 18:54:35

I've bought them for friends' children before but I've asked if it was OK first.

NeedABumChangeNotANameChange Sun 30-Nov-14 18:56:22

It's weird, they only need one advent calendar at Xmas it's like turning up to a birthday party with a cake. Unless prearranged it's clear the parents will have done it.
And surely the whole point of the advent calendar is they only get one and have to wait until the next day to open another window, not move onto the next one.

StillStayingClassySanDiego Sun 30-Nov-14 18:56:53

Donate them to a food bank.

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