Just had a very annoying conversation with SIL - with whom we are spending Xmas together with at MILs for the first time since she had kids.
They have one DD - the same age as our DD3. So she wanted to know
what we were getting for our DC for Xmas so their Santa sacks would be the same. I said our 3 ask for three things from Santa (guided by us to stop any laptop or iPad nonsense). This year I think their 3 Santa presents come to around £60-80 each. We then get some small stocking fillers - books, stickers, rubbers etc. We also give one present from Mum & Dad - a board game or similar.
So SIL got stuck in saying (by very strong implication) that this was excessive and she didn't want her DD (same age as my youngest) to get a "ginormous stocking" - her actual words.
She says they only get their DD one thing from Santa and no stocking fillers. This was also preceded by a text exchange where she was asking for ideas what to get her DD (every year I have to select every present from her to my 3 kids for both birthday & Xmas - a new first that I have to choose for her child). A couple of the tiny stocking things I'd bought my Dd2 id bought the same for DN for authenticity.
So I managed this conversation by saying "well everyone has different traditions" when she expressed incredulity that the kids get three Santa presents AND stuff in their stockings AND a present from us. I didn't express my opinion that I think she is being mingey (her & her husband have wellpaid jobs) because I also do think yes, keeping it lowkey is nice.
But her judgmental attitude - as though we buy them each £500 of electronic goods - has pissed me right off. And as for the solution - hmmm - I'm thinking maybe Santa might leave some presents at home that they get when we get home? Also - I did all my shopping a few weeks ago, kids wrote their lists at start of nov.
Mind you, if DN got more this year, would she really remember to compare when she was back to basic rations next year?
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To think that £80 worth of presents from You Know Who isn't excessive
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Turniphead1 · 30/11/2014 12:14
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