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Me 'mummy doesn't work' ,dd2 'of course you don't ,you're not a man'.

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Waltonswatcher Sat 29-Nov-14 08:27:51

AIBU for laughing at this statement and should I take back the Dyson I've bought her for Christmas ?

NoLongerJustAShopGirl Sat 29-Nov-14 08:32:45

sad sad not laughable....

kim147 Sat 29-Nov-14 08:35:49

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Littleturkish Sat 29-Nov-14 08:36:45

Did you correct her? How old is she?

With the info provided YABU for laughing instead of setting her straight.

BolshierAyraStark Sat 29-Nov-14 08:37:16

You corrected her right? sad

Waltonswatcher Sat 29-Nov-14 08:37:38

I disagree obviously. My dd15 is career driven so I must be offering a balance along the way .
I think it's sad that you've seen it so negatively ! She's two btw...

paperlace Sat 29-Nov-14 08:37:49

Oh it's no big deal - my two year old son said to me incredulously 'mummies don't work!' when I was on maternity and another mum told him she was going to work. I went on to work FT for the last 8 years so they know now! They also know I absolutely love my job and am the main bread winner.

Small kids only see the tiny world they live in at first. You talk to them as they grow and they get to know more set ups and it's all fine.

paperlace Sat 29-Nov-14 08:38:30

Lol at all the sad faces!! OP, I'm with you.

MissBeehiving Sat 29-Nov-14 08:38:42

YABU for laughing at that statement.

Neverbuyheliumbalonz Sat 29-Nov-14 08:39:50

Oh dear....

DustInTheWind Sat 29-Nov-14 08:41:15

If she's 2, she has time to learn otherwise. I'd be more worried if it was your 15 yo. How does DD1 see you, and your choice to be a SAHM?

GahBuggerit Sat 29-Nov-14 08:41:34

2!! still a baby and they say the daftest things. take dyson back and get a workbench

EhricLovesTheBhrothers Sat 29-Nov-14 08:42:19

It's not funny, it's dreadful that she thinks that at age 2. I'm shocked that you think it's funny to be honest.

Waltonswatcher Sat 29-Nov-14 08:42:21

Of course I corrected her. I straight away invented a role play with me ,her and her dolls . We dressed up to make it more authentic and then I was sure to cover all the options a woman now has in this new modern age.��

FluffyMcnuffy Sat 29-Nov-14 08:42:46

YABVU that is not a healthy attitude at all. I'm shocked you think it's funny.

cuppateaandtoast Sat 29-Nov-14 08:43:12

Its really not that big a deal people. I would laugh

DustInTheWind Sat 29-Nov-14 08:43:45

Of course you did, OP. grin

Starlightbright1 Sat 29-Nov-14 08:45:13

Maybe you should have put it in chat and also said she was 2. I got it from OP she was very young but I have a feeling you will get a hard time on this thread.

Kids do say the funniest thing. The way things are in your family is the way things are to a 2 year old

Bakeoffcakes Sat 29-Nov-14 08:45:49

I think if she's only two you don't have much to worry about.

If she's saying the same thing at 4 then you do.

GahBuggerit Sat 29-Nov-14 08:48:23

role play with dolls? were they all female? how were the dolls dressed? did they wear pink?

BeeInYourBonnet Sat 29-Nov-14 08:50:55

Its kinda funny, but also really not funny.
But as long as you used the opportunity to put her straight!

May be worth getting your DH to get more involved with 'women's work' if he doesn't already!!!

MaryWestmacott Sat 29-Nov-14 08:55:00

My DS told me a few weeks ago when he grows up he's going to be a policeman for 2 days a week - like his friend Fred's mummy, then the rest of the time he's going to be a Daddy, and he's going to marry Emma who went to his nursery, she's going to work in an office in London full time like her Mummy then come home to do bathtime and stories with their children. And I can come to babysit their children at the weekends, but not when he's being a policeman, they are going to go to his old nursery and be looked after by his old key worker as that's more fun.

Waltonswatcher Sat 29-Nov-14 08:55:04

She's awake and demanding porridge so I'm off- not ran away .
Guys it made me smile and yes I can chuckle at it because its funny . Kids learn what they live at 2. I'm a complete women's lib freak . I was raised by a single mum and was taught that women can do anything.
My kids are taught the same , but childhood lasts a long time and she has a lot of learning left to do .
I'm proud and lucky to be a SAHM and want her to know that is an option too .

manicinsomniac Sat 29-Nov-14 08:56:02

From a 2 year old it's funny.

Two of my colleagues are a married couple with relatively equal jobs within the school (he does more hours but those hours are voluntary and their jobs are at the same middle management kind of level). Yet, when their oldest child was 2/3, she said 'Mummy, when I am older I am going to be a worker like you in Daddy's school.'

Fascinating how quickly they pick up even subtle societal norms.

Waltonswatcher Sat 29-Nov-14 08:56:55

The dolls were a representation of society Gahbuggerit . I had every base covered!

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