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What is acceptable noise in a flat?

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Sorryconnectioncannotbefound Fri 28-Nov-14 21:42:18

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FryOneFatManic Fri 28-Nov-14 21:45:48

Ignore him.

Don't stop making normal daytime noise. Giggling at 8:15 isn't an unacceptable noise. And he chose to move into a flat, so he'll just have to get used to some noise.

Don't let him make you feel afraid to make a noise in your own home.

Andrewofgg Fri 28-Nov-14 21:50:08

Ordinary unamplified human noise is fine. It would be reasonable to wear socks or slippers and obviously there comes a point in the evening (I would say 10 p.m. but others would differ) when a TV needs to be on at a level where others can't hear it. And don't get me started on amplified music with a heavy beat which was the work of Beelzebub one day when he was in an especially evil and malicious mood. But what you do is well within what he will have to live with.

avocadotoast Fri 28-Nov-14 21:53:20

I live in a terrace and we hear the kids next door when they're playing loudly, tantrum-img, being yelled at... And yeah, it's annoying at times, but we'd never complain about because it's just normal noise.

Ignore your neighbour; you don't move into a flat and expect complete silence. It's not like you're throwing parties til 3am!

pauline6703 Fri 28-Nov-14 21:54:32

If I understand the situation correctly, you and your dd were in your flat before he moved into his. He moved in while you and your dd were above the flat.
Why change your habits to suit someone who moved in below you knowing exactly what to expect?
He is wrong.

bette06 Fri 28-Nov-14 22:52:10

I live in a flat and I think that during the daytime (however you define that!), you should generally be able to live your life without worrying too much about the noise e.g. TV or music at a normal 'middle of the range' level but not full blast, talking at normal level but not shouting etc. At night/early morning you still need to be able to get on with your life but should be more aware of the noise e.g. having TV/music on low or using headphones, being more considerate of noise levels as you move around, talk etc.

creampie Fri 28-Nov-14 23:17:11

But he hasn't actually made any sort of complaint that you're being too noisy to you? Or have I misunderstood?

creampie Fri 28-Nov-14 23:19:06

If he hasn't directly complained then carry on as usual, with the usual consideration given to living in a flat. He may not even be able to hear you, and you're all creeping around as though you're on a final warning! I'm sure he'll let you know if there's a problem, he sounds fairly direct grin

Christina22xx Fri 28-Nov-14 23:24:07

I live below someone With a kid and its so stressful the noise of stomping. It makes you HATE your upstairs neighbour.
He also has a right to peace n quite, would you like it if he blared his tv with porno on at 1am with your daughter around?
Make your daughter wear slipper boots around the house, someone suggested before to glue carpet on the soles of slippers to
I have lived above someone before and not once did i receive complaints in five years in fact the neighbour said they wish i was still there as an inconsiderate stomping A hole moved into my old flat and is terrorising her.

SoMuchForSubtlety Fri 28-Nov-14 23:28:54

If you don't want to live with other people's noise don't share walls or a floor/ceiling with them. It's inevitable that you'll hear people if you're in a flat or semi or terrace.

You shouldn't feel guilty at all, he's being unreasonable.

Christina22xx Fri 28-Nov-14 23:32:06

Its funny how many people think stomping is ok but think music and tv is wrong. you can play music from 8-11pm
Would you like it if your neighbour played music between these times all day everyday?
Nobody cares about "whos been there first" what a stupid logic to have. The guy has a right to peace like the asker does.
Consideration works both ways.
You have a man in his 60s who im sure makes little noise BE GRATEFUL u could have some noisy chav living there that has friends intimidate you and your child.
Consideration works both ways.

Christina22xx Fri 28-Nov-14 23:34:17

Some people are not rich enough to buy their own house or im sure they would. Stupid logic again.

Wh0dathunkit Fri 28-Nov-14 23:35:37

Our upstairs neighbour on one side has a toddler, and the noise from that side is fine - it's during normal waking hours, and it's nothing more than a kid letting off steam. Admittedly, sometimes it sounds like there's a baby elephant living up there, but the important thing is that it's during normal waking hours.

They are a lovely friendly family, and I hope they continue living there forever & ever smile

SoMuchForSubtlety Fri 28-Nov-14 23:45:43

Christina just because you'd like to pretend your neighbour isn't there doesn't mean they have to be silent and paranoid to accommodate you. Budget has nothing to do with it. Being realistic is the main point.

Redglitter Sat 29-Nov-14 00:01:39

What kind of floors do you have? In my last flat the people above me had wooden floors and I could hear them walking from room to room and hear their telly. I never complained but it was quite annoying at times.

The girl who lived there came to my door to get a parcel one day we got chatting and she stopped for coffee. While she was in her boyfriend came home she was absolutely horrified at how much the noise travelled. so much so the wee soul carpeted part of the flat within weeks and put rugs down everywhere else.

Christina22xx Sat 29-Nov-14 01:10:17

It isnt about "pretending neighbour isnt there"
Its about not being an A hole and being considerate.
So everyone else must revolve around someone who Choose to have a child and live in a flat?
Think before you type

Sorryconnectioncannotbefound Sat 29-Nov-14 06:28:46

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 Sat 29-Nov-14 06:53:01

The wee girl downstairs bangs and wakes us up crying at 530. However our DD does the same. It's just life.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Sat 29-Nov-14 06:54:19

Music is annoying ..also the kids that used to run up and down on wooden floor above us til midnight every night but you aren't doing anything wrong. People have to walk around and giggling is good.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Sat 29-Nov-14 06:56:40

I think some people are just more heavy footed while walking. The sound annoys me if someone sounds like they are stomping around upstairs but I just accept it's just how they walk and would never think of them as "inconsiderate assholes terrorizing me". That is just weird.

Roonerspism Sat 29-Nov-14 07:11:00

I thought this was going to be a thread about someone wanting to put their TV on at 3 am...

But your situation - it's normal life noise. I think that us what you accept living in a flat.

When I was young (n free n single) I lived in a very noisy block. Upstairs all walked heavily and their toddker ran around like a loon from dawn till dusk. I could hear him snore...

How on earth could I complain though? It was just a busy family above me. Although I did get ear plugs smile

Sorryconnectioncannotbefound Sat 29-Nov-14 07:11:31

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Roonerspism Sat 29-Nov-14 07:16:56

sorry I don't think asking someone to walk lighter footed is reasonable. You already sound very considerate!

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