I'll preface this by saying that my parents have a terrible marriage. I expect they (wrongly) stayed together because of us kids and also because of societal and family expectation in the rural Catholic Ireland they live in.
They don't communicate apart from to snap and sulk at each other. They don't eat any meals together. They sit in separate rooms every night, my mum watching soaps and my dad watching the news. I suspect they sleep in different beds. They do nothing but bitch and moan to us about each other on the phone but won't do anything about it. My mother is obsessed with money and I seriously think she is just waiting for my Dad to die so she can start a new life with his money (he's considerably older than her).
Anyway, my sister recently separated from her husband after he had an affair. He has acted like a total asshole and told my sister she drove him to it because she had no time for him (she works full time, has two kids and did everything in the house. He is a spoilt mummy's boy).
My sister has been devastated but has also started to thrive on her own. She says that looking back she wasn't happy and they didn't have the greatest marriage. She has admitted to feeling tentatively excited about the future. She also has incredibly high standards and can't see herself being able to get past this.
My parents are trying to influence her to take him back. They say it's better for the kids but is it? They are putting pressure on her to get everything back to normal and forget about it . They feel sorry for him double .
AIBU to think they should keep their noses out? And that they should encourage my sister not to settle for being treated this way by her husband? I am aghast that they would want her to continue in an unhappy marriage when they have been living that life for decades.
I know it's ultimately none of my business either but my sister has been confiding in me a lot and I have tried to be as supportive as possible without describing the 5,000 ways I'd like to hurt her H. If she does decide to take him back I'll respect her decision.
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NotTodaySatan · 28/11/2014 16:18
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