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To think that the woman who messaged me on Ebay to ask a special favour

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ShittyCrappyThingToDo Thu 27-Nov-14 15:58:24

..which involved me going out, buying stuff, putting it together (was party cups containing loads of different things and nicely bagged and decorated), paying money for petrol and parking and wasting my bloody time - where was I? To think that this woman could at the very least message me that she's changed her mind?
She wanted a load of prefilled party cups sent today so she'd get them tomorrow. I warned her guaranteed postage would be expensive - she said no problem. So now I'm left with a shitload of party cups that had it been up to me I wouldn't have bloody had at all. Waste of money listing them, waste of time boxing them all up so they wouldn't crush, waste of bloody time unpacking the box and putting them all God Knows Bloody Where. Damn I'm pissed off.
So if you're a MN'er (I'm not shitty enough to give your location. Yet) and it's your kid's surprise party tomorrow I hope the party cups you got in the end are cheap and shitty and come with the smell of poo firmly attached.
That is all.

wonderpants Thu 27-Nov-14 16:03:34

Did she not pay by PayPal first?

Nanny0gg Thu 27-Nov-14 16:03:55

Why did you do stuff that hadn't been paid for?

I don't understand.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 27-Nov-14 16:04:08

How do you know she's changed her mind? Hasn't she paid for them?

ShittyCrappyThingToDo Thu 27-Nov-14 16:06:53

Because I'm a soft touch. Because I couldn't give her a final price (guaranteed next day RM) without the package being filled and sealed. Because she asked so nicely. Because she was friendly and had good feedback. But most of all because I'm clearly some kind of fucking idiot.

ShittyCrappyThingToDo Thu 27-Nov-14 16:07:27

We agreed I'd have it all ready for her to pay by lunchtime today. It's 4pm. Not a word. Nothing. Nada. No answer to my messages.

Gileswithachainsaw Thu 27-Nov-14 16:07:31

How do you know there wasn't an emergency?

and your posting this while she is stuck in a&e with her ds

Coconutty Thu 27-Nov-14 16:07:32

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ShittyCrappyThingToDo Thu 27-Nov-14 16:08:47

And please don't all pile in on me and tell me I'm a fucking idiot. I know this. And I'm emotionally volatile at the best of times - especially when I've tried to do a nice thing and been effing well shat on.

KnackeredMuchly Thu 27-Nov-14 16:10:45

What a bitch. Sometimes you take a leap of faith - I'm sorry it was straight into a pile of shit, you're right - karma will get her with poo cups.

Have a glass of wine if you can

puntasticusername Thu 27-Nov-14 16:14:15

You're not an idiot, you sound lovely. You tried to help someone and it bit you on the arse. Have some brew and thanks. And it's only 47 minutes until it's officially ok to open the wine!

ShittyCrappyThingToDo Thu 27-Nov-14 16:16:31

Thank you Knackered and puntastic - I WAS just trying to do a nice thing for someone on a tight deadline. You know - like people do for one another. I'm really really pissed off - least of all because the £30 I spent is now non-recoverable because the cups are all made up. Just think it's a shitty thing to do to someone - not something I would ever do to another person.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 27-Nov-14 16:16:33

That's crap of her. I don't really know what the things you've made are, but is there no way you could sell them to someone else on ebay, just to recoup some of your costs?

formerbabe Thu 27-Nov-14 16:16:47

No good deed goes unpunished.

NotALondoner Thu 27-Nov-14 16:20:24

Can you give her negative feedback? Or does there have to be a transaction?

ShittyCrappyThingToDo Thu 27-Nov-14 16:20:58

Yes Shatners I'll have to do that. I just wouldn't have chosen this time to do it with needing all the spare money there is (not bloody much!) for Christmas. You live and learn - although I find it so sad that now next time someone asks something like this it'll have to be a straight no.

furcoatbigknickers Thu 27-Nov-14 16:21:15

Thats such an odd saying formerbabe... Was mulling that over after watching wicked. <sorry for hijack>

ShittyCrappyThingToDo Thu 27-Nov-14 16:21:40

Sadly there has been no transaction Not else I would. I am entirely at fault here for being nice. Ho hum.

furcoatbigknickers Thu 27-Nov-14 16:21:53

Op you need to treat it as a business from now on. No pay no favour.

dwinnol Thu 27-Nov-14 16:22:04

Ah, that's shite. But you know you've got to chalk it up to experience. It happens to all small business owners at one time or another. (Send your large furniture item to Cornwall? No problem. You are only there for 1 weekend in 5 and you want it delivered on a Friday afternoon.... Um?? You don't know the neighbours or have a car to collect from depot).
Pick yourself up, brush your self down and think how you are going to make a good sale on the stuff you've invested.

ShittyCrappyThingToDo Thu 27-Nov-14 16:23:55

Yes dwinnol - that's the only way to get over it. I'm trying to get back into eBay etc after a long period of depression and illness - but you're right - I'll just have to get back on the horse.

TeenageWildlife Thu 27-Nov-14 16:24:01

Put an ebay link on here - maybe someone esle will want them?

KnackeredMuchly Thu 27-Nov-14 16:24:21

I know today you want to rant and punch a cake, but just thinking practically for a moment - if it's expensive to post, can you list it on local Facebook selling pages?

ShittyCrappyThingToDo Thu 27-Nov-14 16:28:54

grin Teenage - I feel enough of a dipstick as it is without advertising it further! No - I'll sit on them - and yes Knackered - probably a better idea because in quantity they do add up to quite a weight!

Mammanat222 Thu 27-Nov-14 16:31:13

Sorry have to agree that you should have waited for payment.

Lesson learned - the hard way shock

I am sure you'll be able to sell them on?

Oh and if you do have an email address then feel free to send her a rather cordial (not abusive) email explaining that she is well out of order.

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