To avoid allowing my wind smelling friend in my house

[ghostspirit]

I have a friend. well he's an ex but we have stayed friends. Anyway he has really bad wind it stinks disgusting. The smell has made me sick a couple of times. sometimes i just gag. But its really disgusting the thought of it makes me feel ill. When he does it he thinks its funny and really laughs. part from that hes a nice guy in general. Anyway he sometimes want to pop over and as much as i like his company. I really cant be doing with the wind. aibu to not allow him over? although i find it really hard to say no so dont know how that will work.

[Tammy1212]

Lol that is so gross Don't let him round so often

[Darkandstormynight]

I think you would be doing him a huge favour if you told him that what he does is wretched. From the sounds of it he can control it, because he laughs and thinks it's hilarious. If he can't control it it's another issue.

YANBU to not allow him in your house if he acts this way on purpose.

[Vitalstatistix]

I agree that it would be best really to be honest with him.

He may be covering up embarrassment by pretending to see it as a big joke, so you should still be a bit sensitive.

If it is really really foul and frequent, that's a sign something isn't right. Maybe his diet or something. He ought to get it checked out.

Perhaps you saying look, stop laughing about it, it isn't funny, it makes me feel genuinely ill, please sort it out, something may need treatment. At the very least, have more respect for me than to laugh in my face and if you can't do that, we can't hang out at my home any more.

[ghostspirit]

i (think) it might depend on what hes eaten, he knows it makes me feel ill, and that it actually makes me vomit. my eyes water and everything, im not sure but i dont think hes laughing because hes embarrassed. because he knows hes going to do it and he sort of lifts him bum when hes sitting. if he was embarrassed i would have thought he would go to the bathroom,

[EhricLovesTheBhrothers]

Do you actually want him to come over, regardless of the wind? You say it's hard to say no...? If he does it intentionally and makes no effort to control it then of course you don't need to invite him over, he sounds revolting.

[Vitalstatistix]

you must like him a lot to still want him in the house when he does this.

[ghostspirit]

if there was no wind then i would not mind him coming over for a bit of company. i only really want to say no because of the wind.

[ghostspirit]

vital i dont want him in the house when he does this....

[Jux]

It doesn't sound healthy, that's for sure. Ask him nicely to go to the doc about it if he can't control it. Is this why he's an ex?

[ghostspirit]

lol jux lets just say that did not help haha. I had actually forgotten about it untill he started popping over again

[Vitalstatistix]

I meant that you haven't already told him to stick a cork in it or piss off

[ghostspirit]

oh vital lol. i want to.... But hes also just become single again after seeing someone for a while. so hes kind of feeling bad and he says he gets lonely and feels crap so wants some company so then i find it hard to say no

[Vitalstatistix]

Then I suggest you invest in one of these.

[ghostspirit]

i dont think that would work lol

[Vitalstatistix]

Can I ask a serious question though?

Given that he is your ex, he has foul wind which he thinks he has a right to subject you to, he laughs in your face that you find the stench unbearable, he doesn't have enough respect or consideration for you to nip into the loo and he doesn't much care that you end up feeling genuinely nauseated - why can't you say not unless you stop farting in my living room, you inconsiderate sod?

My dad has foul wind. It's like something crawled up his arse and died. It also brings tears to your eyes. He is an arse lifter. It tells me that he has zero respect for anyone, otherwise he would not subject them to it.

I finally had enough and told him to never point that thing at me again because it's revolting.

He has managed to hold it in around me since.

My poor husband was sitting next to him. He got the full force in the face.

We do not speak of it.

[ghostspirit]

bluntly i feel bad for saying you cant come round my house because you fart :/ it feels like im being a proper bitch.

[SqueezyCheeseWeasel]

He sounds like sniggering 14 year old. Seriously, find alternative company.

[Vitalstatistix]

well, put that out of your mind.

He feels it's ok to fart at you and laugh. I don't think you owe him very much.

[Vitalstatistix]

meant to say - you aren't saying that he can't come to your house because he breaks wind.

you are saying that he cannot come to your house, break really foul smelling wind in your living room and laugh about it, not giving a damn that it makes you feel sick.

That doesn't make you a bitch. It's not unreasonable to expect someone visiting your home to go to the loo if they need to break wind.

[ghostspirit]

its more for him squeezy because he gets fed up and lonely. i got 4 kids so when they in bed im quite glad to be alone. as i said its nice to have a bit of company sometimes but im also not that bothered. But i also dont want to be nasty. i guess its a choice of telling him about it. or telling him not to come over

[ouryve]

You're not going to be telling him that he can't visit because he farts, though. You're going to be telling him that his behaviour around his farting is disrespectful. The least he could do is apologise, even if he doesn't have much control over it.

[blanklook]

Skype him if you want his company, it's odour-free communication.

[SqueezyCheeseWeasel]

Does he break wind when he is with other people? Is that why he now finds himself with a dwindling social circle, because they are all completely nauseated by him and he seems to think it's a big joke rather than completely rude, antisocial, unpleasant and immature?

[OnIlkelyMoorBahtat]

ghostspirit it's not that he farts, it's that he persists in behaviour that actually causes you to vomit and then laughs about it. Can you not see that you're not saying "You can't come round my house because you fart", what you're saying is "You can't come round my house as you persistently put yourself before me and are massively disrespectful". These are not the actions of a "nice guy" at all.

[Fairenuff]

Just spray him liberally with febreeze each time he does it and he probably won't find it so funny after a while.