My husband is usually a good man so I wonder if I am just being a princess...
It was my birthday a few weeks ago, less than a week before he asks what I wanted, was a bit hurt he left it that late to ask as I plan in advance and assumed he have sorted something (& had already bought his xmas presents!) but nevertheless said a day or night out with or without the kids would be nice or failing that a new make up bag. We sort of settle on a Friday night up town and my parents offer to babysit. Then a couple days later his work van goes in for a service and he gets a £400 bill and we recently had a holiday so I ask if he can afford the night out - he says only if on a credit card so I say not to worry. Birthday comes and goes and he gets me nothing but a card, not even a £10 bouquet from the m&s garage. I cook the dinner and wash up that night, he does NOTHING for me at all, not even run a bath to make an attempt at making something special be done for me.
To make me feel worse, at 9.45am on my birthday I drove past his mum going into the off licence... She is an alcoholic who was recently sacked, amassed £500 of bills we bailed her out of and at the time I told him we would end up going without at some point because of it (my birthday it seems!) so I was already upset to have seen her going in there that early knowing I was missing out that day :(
Since then, almost every day he has gone on about getting a new £45 Playstation game & it has just come to the point where I actually felt I had to say WTF!!! I pointed all of the above out to him and he just says "well tell me what you want and i'll just stick it on a cc" ... That's not my point, aibu? How, in the same calendar month, can my birthday be totally passed by and him think its ok to buy a new £45 game? Am I missing something? I know if I told my parents or my close friends they'd agree with me and think he is a dick and use it to judge him, but please, impartial people, who ibu?
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Dukketeater · 25/11/2014 19:30
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