Long story short...my friend lives alone with her baby. He "Partner" lives in a flat elsewhere.
She moved out shortly after the baby was born because of "the rows" which by all accounts were terrible.
Good.
However she thinks she's still in a relationship with him when he never comes to see her apart from when he wants access to their DD once a week OR when he wants some money.
she's constantly telling me "He did this and he said that" and I keep telling her "If he was a real partner, he'd be helping you to paint your home...not me!"
And I tell her to stop giving him money too but she sort of smiles and says she feels guilty when he's so poor.
He works full time but has debt and another child from a past relationship.
Yesterday I got impatient when she said "He wants to move in with me but I thought that it can't work when he hasn't even helped me move my new furniture....I'm tired of giving him money and getting no help in return"
And I said "So stop! Why do you do it?" and again she gave that odd smile and said "I feel guilty.
So I said "Could it be that you sort of enjoy it? That him "Needing" you makes you feel better?"
And she looked
But that's all I can think!
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To have said this to my friend regarding her "partner"?
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ClawHandsIfYouBelieveInFreaks · 25/11/2014 17:13
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