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Julietsbalcony Tue 25-Nov-14 13:50:09

she insists on calling a practice nurse 'sister'. As in 'Sister Jones'.
'Sister' to me conjures up an image of Sister Julienne in call the midwife- or any nun for that matter.

My mum is elderly and seems to put anyone medical a) on a pedestal and b) as if 'sister' implies this practice nurse has huge seniority.
On the practice website the nurses are not given any titles just their full name- eg Sue Jones, Anne Brown.

I am a bit worried my mum is making a bit of a fool of herself by calling the more senior one 'sister' all the time when she requests an appt.
I have tried to tell her that a title like sister would only apply in a hospital setting - if at all- but she won't have any of it.

magpiegin Tue 25-Nov-14 13:51:53

I'm a nurse and wouldn't think twice over this. Lots of people will call her sister so I wouldn't worry about it.

cailindana Tue 25-Nov-14 13:52:20

The nurses probably find it cute.

You're being a pain about nothing.

Get over it.

MagratsHair Tue 25-Nov-14 13:53:32

Is she trying to show the nurse respect by using the title?

I wouldn't have thought a practice nurse would think she was foolish no. Just let her get on with it, there's no point being massively annoyed over it.

NetballHoop Tue 25-Nov-14 13:53:38

I think it's quite nice.

itiswhatitiswhatitis Tue 25-Nov-14 14:01:25

Sounds rather endearing actually, I'm sure the nurse isn't giving it a second thought.

AMumInScotland Tue 25-Nov-14 14:06:03

I'm sure nobody will mind her using a term that's respectful. I expect they have to face a lot worse from day to day than an older lady being polite!

blanklook Tue 25-Nov-14 17:46:56

Has 'sister' Jones got a dark blue uniform? Donkeys years ago, in hospitals, light blue was for nurses and the sisters and Matron wore dark blue. Think Carry On films era.

chdmum2491 Tue 25-Nov-14 18:06:55

some of the.nurses at my gp are sisters, (says so on their door) wink

ForTheLoveOfSocks Tue 25-Nov-14 18:09:52

The sister at my gp's has a dark blue uniform. The Nurse Practitioner doesn't.

CMOTDibbler Tue 25-Nov-14 18:10:37

The practice nurses where my dad goes are all referred to as Sister whatever

Fabulous46 Tue 25-Nov-14 18:11:04

My sister is a Sister in a GP Practice. When she was on the wards a staff nurse was called "Staff" and the ward sister called "Sister". I don't see anything wrong with it.

Esmum07 Tue 25-Nov-14 18:13:19

Three of the nurses at our practice are 'sisters'. If you ring to speak to one of them the receptionist always says she'll leave a message for Sister x

CakeAndWineAreAFoodGroup Tue 25-Nov-14 18:16:47

My late MIL would refer to something that "Matron said..." in hushed tones of awe and carry out her instructions to the letter. If Matron had said "take a tablet the moment you open your eyes in the morning," MIL would have a glass of water and the tablet on the bedside table ready.

Whereas I would get up, have a wee, make a cuppa, let the cat out, open the curtains, check the washing had finished and then think "I was meant to have a tablet about now"

I did find it sweet though. smile

eeyoreeeyoreoh Tue 25-Nov-14 18:18:47

When my community midwife got on the hospital to give them a bollocking about taking their time over my scan for possible breech (was overdue at the time) she told them it was "sister X" on the time, so I do think they sometimes use it in a non hospital setting.

MegCleary Tue 25-Nov-14 18:22:59

I was a band 6 and called sister. You're Mum might have asked her what her title is and that may be it. It's not going to hurt or upset anyone if she is right or wrong.

Fluffyears Tue 25-Nov-14 18:30:51

Does it impact your life? Leave her alone.

ENormaSnob Tue 25-Nov-14 18:38:09

You are mean op.

It doesnt impact you in any way.

Im a nurse and midwife and would find this endearing.

DoJo Tue 25-Nov-14 23:45:11

This must be one of the weirdest things I have ever known anyone to worry about (except when my friend was convinced her fingerprints were 'unattractive') and I certainly don't think it's worth trying to impose your preferences on your mum when she's clearly trying to be polite.

Clobbered Tue 25-Nov-14 23:47:12

You really should get out more.

Mrsgrumble Tue 25-Nov-14 23:49:11

I think it's lovely. Of all the things nurses have to worry about and with all their responsibility, old fashioned courtesies aren't an issue. I would be flattered if I were a nurse.

scousadelic Tue 25-Nov-14 23:57:57

I work in a GP practice and at least 2 of our practice nurses are known as "Sister".

Your Mum sounds sweet, you not so much. What is wrong with her according a professional person a bit of respect?

chocolatedonut Wed 26-Nov-14 00:29:20

But she might be the sister?

I have worked in GP practice as a staff nurse and my senior nurse was a "Sister". To patients I called her Sister X, to more familiar/regular patients I just called her by her first name. She wasn't bothered what she was called though grin I really don't think it matters.

Where I am in hospitals they are phasing out "sister" for "ward manager" instead. Not sure what they are doing for community settings though.

MidniteScribbler Wed 26-Nov-14 06:05:13

Why does it matter? She's not saying "Yo, bitch, come over here and give me my pills." She's using an acceptable term of respect for a professional member of the medical profession. Just like using 'Doctor', 'Professor', 'Constable', 'Vicar', or any other possible title that could be used for someone. It's respectful, and I think it's a real shame that being polite has gone by the wayside. If the nursing sister did not like being called that, she is quite capable of saying 'call me Mary' or whatever. I'm sure that being called 'Sister' is probably the least offensive thing that happens in her day to day working life.

TheRealAmandaClarke Wed 26-Nov-14 06:25:44

YABU
She is being polite. She sounds lovely and in no way is making a fool of herself.

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