Bit of an outline first - DW can be negative at times, a little "glass half empty". Can be difficult keeping her upbeat. I sometimes find myself having to pick DD up as well when she picks up on her mam's mood swings (she can be very Jekyll and Hyde).
Onto the specifics that drives me to this little rant (for that's what I see this as being). I practice a martial art, have done for a few years. When I'd go for a grading on a Sunday, which would often run past DD's bedtime (I do most bedtimes), she'd always make me promise to come up to her room to show her my new belt. So when she asked to come along to the dojo when she was old enough, I was really rather chuffed indeed, and more so when she enjoyed it so much to stick at it. So that's now one of my favorite daddy/daughter things.
Now, DD probably ain't up to speed for our next grading, and whilst I and sensei are all encouragement and "it doesn't matter missing a grading once in a while", DW is less so. On to the real crux that had me hugely pissed off (inside) last night. DD asked me if I'd mind her quitting karate if she didn't get to grade this time round- apparently DW has told her if she can't learn her moves for this grading, how's she going to cope with the new stuff in the new year? "Can i give up if it's too hard?" Honestly, my heart sank with those words. DW has really fucked me off this time: how dare she put her negativity onto the little one like that, is she trying to ruin one of the most fun things I share with my daughter?
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Minus2seventy3 · 24/11/2014 10:03
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