I was talking about this on another thread but would love some advice & more traffic from AIBU.
I'm due my first baby any day now, have several grown up and almost grown up stepchildren. I use FB on a fairly regular basis, as in I post roughly once a week, sometimes less. I only have about 35 friends on, they're all either family or actual proper friends who I speak to on a regular basis. I plan to put up a select few but not loads of baby photos so my friends and family can see them, with the usual 'friends only' privacy settings.
However, I'm concerned about how to limit what other people put up. My stepchildren have a ridiculous amount of FB friends. They're of the generation of, if you ever spoke to the person you friend them on FB. All old schoolmates (primary, secondary, college), uni friends, work friends past and present, people they've met casually in pubs, people who are friends with their friends, all on FB. They are madly excited about a new sibling and I know they will want to spam FB with photos. I feel, being my stepchildren, I can ask them to create a 'family and close friends only' album for baby photos, but AIBU to extend this request to other people who have similarly poor levels of privacy? Can I ask my aunties, cousins, nieces etc to do the same? I know at least three of them will also think it's fine to spam their timeline with 'cute' baby photos of my kid.
I'm not comfortable with my child's image being online to this extent. Between the people I'm thinking of, they have several thousand friends, the vast majority of whom are strangers to me and always will be. It's not a 'oh no, paedos!' kind of thing, it's just that I feel quite strongly about having my own photo splashed all over the internet, so I don't see why my child's should be without their consent. Someone pointed out it's just like showing friends your photo album but it's not really. Think of all those really cringey photos your parents have of you from when you were in an 'awkward phase', then imagine that those photos are online for everyone your parents and extended family ever met to see. To me, this is the equivalent and it's taking away my child's right to privacy before they've even had the chance to exercise the choice.
But I don't know how to control it. I don't want to say 'no baby photos' to everyone but I don't want the photos to be so accessible to strangers.
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NormaStits · 21/11/2014 09:28
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