AIBU to want to do something about exh?

[cleoismycat]

I am currently off work with depression/anxiety. I divorced last year and my exh is horrid. Today my 6 yr old d's says to me that daddy says yours off work because you drink too much wine and should stop going to the pub. This is categorically untrue and I'm furious that he has said this to her. What can I do? This is just the tip of the iceberg btw.

[Calloh]

Christ, he sounds awful!

If your DS says something like this again I would try and stay calm and say something like "well, we all say silly things from time to time, Daddy isn't right about that"

Can you ring him up and explain how damaging that kind of crap is or would he be utterly unresponsive?

What a total dickhead

[cleoismycat]

Can I do anything legally to stop this shite?

[Lozislovely]

I'm not sure what you can do legally but if it was me I'd be calmly speaking to ex asking what he was hoping to achieve other than messing with DS's mind - is that what he really wants???

I had similar with my ex 'my house is obviously dirty' because the DS's had colds. I was spending maintenance on wine/lager etc and therefore ignoring the children.

Tell your child the truth without slagging off twatish ex, as hard as it is, they work it out for themselves.

[cleoismycat]

Not sure how much I can take.