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to politely decline to use the disabled loo?

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MsIngaFewmarbles Tue 18-Nov-14 20:00:27

I was waiting in a long queue for the loo in a coffee chain and saw a lady with crutches head into the disabled toilet. She came out while I was still queueing. Another lady further back in the queue caught my eye and offered for me to go in first. I declined saying that I wasn't disabled so wasn't entitled to use it. She then countered away to her friends telling them that she was going to use it as 'it was the law' that if it wasn't being used you could use it. I couldn't face an argument so just ignored her. It's still bothering me that I should have said something to her and corrected her.

Madamecastafiore Tue 18-Nov-14 20:01:24

Oh ffs they are not disabled toilets but accessible toilets.

KingJoffreysBloodshotEye Tue 18-Nov-14 20:01:39

If no one else was using it and she was going to be quick I don't see the issue.

Tobyjugg Tue 18-Nov-14 20:03:22

YABU I think, if only for the sake of those behind you, and assuming there were no disabled persons who needed it, I think you should have used it. Certainly that's how it works in our local Waitrose.

NaiceNickname Tue 18-Nov-14 20:03:42

Bloody hell it's a toilet, you don't have to be disabled to use it, just have to give priority to disabled people if they are waiting to use the toilet too.


FoxgloveFairy Tue 18-Nov-14 20:03:49

Actually, she's right, at least she would be here in Oz. If it's free and no one is waiting to use it, you can.

Littlef00t Tue 18-Nov-14 20:04:12

They're not like parking spaces, you can use them if you like.

KnackeredMuchly Tue 18-Nov-14 20:04:31

I'd use it.

avocadotoast Tue 18-Nov-14 20:18:33

Yeah, I'd use it. I'm always quick though in case anyone arrives outside who needs it!

HowsTheSerenity Tue 18-Nov-14 20:21:10

Of course you can use it. No laws saying you can't (unless it's one of those toilets you need to buy a special key for).

LadyLuck10 Tue 18-Nov-14 20:23:53

How goody goody of you but really most people would use it. Look behind you if no one with disabilities and then use it. What did you feel the need to correct her about?

Summerisle1 Tue 18-Nov-14 20:25:58

I'd use it - and I say this as someone whose DH is someone who needs an accessible loo. Incidentally, they are not "disabled" facilities, but are designed to meet a range of requirements that come under the broad umbrella of accessibility.

Provided you are not taking the place of someone who cannot use the "inaccessible" loos and you don't plan to spend half the day in there, then why not cut the queue down? There's no law that says you can't.

londonrach Tue 18-Nov-14 20:26:16


addictedtobass Tue 18-Nov-14 20:28:04

Was it a radar key one or just an accessible one in the same place as the others. If it was the former, YANBU they are locked for a reason. If it was the latter, your were unreasonable and in the wrong. Those loos are accessible and instead of 5 people about to piss their pants leaving one loo free for no one who needs it you should have freed up the queue. Of course, if someone needing it came along after they would not have to queue n could go in- it takes all of 30 seconds to piss. If you are turtling, you should always demur because you'll be longer.

BerniceBroadside Tue 18-Nov-14 20:29:51

Was it a proper disabled loo or one of the ones marked 'men/women/disabled' that you tend to get in small coffee shops?

Serenitysutton Tue 18-Nov-14 20:31:37

Yabu. Of course you can use it. It's not reserved for people with disabilities, just adapted so wheelchairs can enter more easily

TimeWarp Tue 18-Nov-14 20:33:34

Loos are multi-use items, it's not as though there are only a limited number of flushes in a day and there might not enough left for someone who needs it at the end of the day.

fourwoodenchairs Tue 18-Nov-14 20:36:35


GSTONES Tue 18-Nov-14 20:37:13

If it was unlocked I would have used it.

BerniceBroadside Tue 18-Nov-14 20:42:52

Oh, the OP has vanished. What a shock.

I think it would be entirely reasonable to say "Is there anyone who needs to use the accessible toilet?" and if noone answers then use it. Especially if there is a long line.

TurnOverTheTv Tue 18-Nov-14 20:43:36

What exactly were you going to say to her?

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Tue 18-Nov-14 20:45:50

YANBU at all. People criticising you are showing themselves up really grin

milkpudding Tue 18-Nov-14 20:46:32

YABU, the toilet is accessible and those who need accessible facilities have priority.
But others can still use it. I would be quick though in case anybody needs it.
Silly to all stand in a really long queue whilst a toilet is vacant.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Tue 18-Nov-14 20:47:50

Not really. if everyone in queue used it it wouldn't be very accessible would it.

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