Apologies for the long thread - I have a dilemma. My dad and step mum live in London and have asked today if DH, DS, DD and I would like to go and have a Christmas get together with them on Sunday 21st December with my other brothers and sisters (siblings have no kids between them). He hasn’t seen much of his grandkids this year due to ill health.
The day would involve drinks at his flat then lunch out. They live in London, we live in Cheshire. He lives in a beautiful flat with low tables covered in glass ornaments, white carpets etc etc. DS is 15 months, typical boy and will be crashing around the place, putting small items down the loo, emptying kitchen cupboards, climbing the xmas tree. It is not a child friendly flat and sitting down to a 2 or 3 course lunch in a restaurant as well (it’s a very smart one) will be so stressful. DH and I will be doing everything trying to keep DS sitting at the table (Dad and SM have Victorian very firm ideas about how children should behave) whilst trying to have a conversation with the rest of my family.
I feel I should go because it would make my dad so happy (has just had the all clear from illness) but it will be so stressful for me and DH. It will also involve a round trip to London in a day the Sunday before Xmas. DH and I have work on the Monday and DD’s bday party and our streets Xmas drinks are on the Saturday before (have offered to help organise/do the catering for the party), so we can’t extend the stay in any way.
Should I just get over myself and make the effort? AIBU? He has said we could arrange something in the new year if we can’t make it.
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to not want to make a round trip to London (from Cheshire) the Sunday before Xmas?
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tallulahdula · 17/11/2014 13:56
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