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To think 9:40 is too late to ring someone's house?

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Angel1983 Mon 17-Nov-14 09:11:51

I was in bed last night at 9:40 (I know it's early but I'm up at 5). I was just about to drop off to sleep and the phone rang (and rang). When I eventually dragged myself out of bed thinking it might be a family emergency it turned out to be a family acquaintance ringing for a chat.

I am not overly bothered about this but I was just wondering what time people think is too late to ring people who aren't close family or friends.

mameulah Mon 17-Nov-14 09:12:41


Just don't answer.

Sorry you were woken though.

iwantgin Mon 17-Nov-14 09:14:19

I don't phone anyone after 9.00pm.

Unless it is an emergency. Must be about the 'right' time, as most of my family and friends do the same.

LaurieFairyCake Mon 17-Nov-14 09:15:19

8. I ignore people after then. Think it's too late at 9.40.

Everyone I know is in bed by 10 now grin

My Dh is angling to go at 9 [��

ThatBloodyWoman Mon 17-Nov-14 09:16:52

9 is the cut off for me.

fluffyraggies Mon 17-Nov-14 09:18:09


A call any time after 9 is 'late' in this house. Ears prick up, wondering if it's something wrong.

My MIL used to have form for ringing at around 10pm, despite the fact that she knows DH and i generally go to bed at 10. DH would be yawning all the way through the calls as he's shattered by that time. We are up at 6 every day; she's a late riser and doesn't go to bed till the early hours.

She did it a couple of times this year when DD was only a few weeks old and we had all gone to bed already. Woke the baby and us. DH was fuming a bit short with her and she hasn't done it again.

Call us by 9 for chatting please or not till tomorrow grin

MTBMummy Mon 17-Nov-14 09:19:24

8, as the kids are in bed then, and a ringing phone will either wake them or excite them.

DP circumvents PIL's late calling by calling them when I'm doing bed time.

If someone called that close to 10 I would assume it was an emergency

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Mon 17-Nov-14 09:20:12

9-10 is normal to call my mum or for her to call me. She works shifts so I would never speak to her otherwise.

ChippingInAutumnLover Mon 17-Nov-14 09:22:18

Depends how well you know the person's routine really.

But someone whose routine you don't know well, then I think 9pm is the latest you can really ring without being intrusive.

9:40 is too late to ring someone you don't know well, just for a chat.

Andcake Mon 17-Nov-14 09:24:23

I'd say after 10.00 is too late. Also people tend to not answer if they don't want a call now days.

MrsPiggie Mon 17-Nov-14 09:32:03

Depends on the household routine. I hate being called before 8:30pm as that is the time the kids normally go to bed, so anytime before that I haven't got time for a chat. So 9-10pm is the perfect time for calls in my house.

Norfolkandchance1234 Mon 17-Nov-14 09:32:57

Yes I'd say 9pm is the def the cut off time unless you know that person stays up later and is fine with later calls.

londonrach Mon 17-Nov-14 09:37:48

Depends on knowing the person. For me everyone but family is 9pm (unless i know they have small children in which case 6pm and text after). Family is 10pm unless something is very very very urgent eg visit to hospital etc.

PickledInAJar Mon 17-Nov-14 09:42:26

My family are owls so calling at 9 when they don't sleep for another 3 hours means the night is yet young!

However my DH's family are larks, and they're usually heading for bed around 8:30-9, and so I wouldn't call them past 8pm.

Everyone else I have a mental cut-off point of around 8:30. I try to keep texting below 9pm too, as some text tones are as loud as a ringing phone.

RiverTam Mon 17-Nov-14 09:44:14

yes, I agree. FIL is a shocker for this. And Mil is a shocker for ringing before 9 at the weekend!

DialsMavis Mon 17-Nov-14 09:47:40

I wouldn't ring anyone I didn't know well enough to know if they would be up after 9pm. I'd ring parents or close friends without babies until 10.30pm

whatever5 Mon 17-Nov-14 09:50:10

It depends on the person who you are calling. As a teenage/young adult I would phone people up to 10 p.m. as no friends would be in bed at that time. Nowadays, I probably phone friends up until about 9.30 as they have older children and I know they won't be going to bed that early.

ignominious Mon 17-Nov-14 09:55:27

9 if I knew them well, 8 if I didn't, 7 if they have children. Realistically I'd call their mobile anyway and assume it'd be silent or switched off if they're asleep. I used to have a friend who would get really cross with me for texting her late at night because it would wake her up. ???.

MrsMcColl Mon 17-Nov-14 09:58:30

Personally I prefer no-one to call at all, ever. Or if they really must, text first to warn me. Hmph.

peggyundercrackers Mon 17-Nov-14 10:00:44

I don't mind what time people phone, normally speak to my mum late on - usually between 11pm-12pm. also seem to speak to close friends mostly after 10pm but before 11pm. if it was someone I wasn't close with I wouldn't call after 10pm

isaacandelodiesmummy Mon 17-Nov-14 10:03:26

Still get texts at 11pm but wouldn't answer the phone after 9

Bramshott Mon 17-Nov-14 10:10:06

10 is my mental cut-off. I wouldn't consider 9.40 to be particularly late (unless it was a friend I knew had very small children or a particularly early start).

MrsItsNoworNotatAll Mon 17-Nov-14 10:12:19

9pm is the cut off point unless you really have to ring us. I usually go to bed between 9 and 10pm so I'm too tired to be chatting. Don't mind texts after 9pm as they don't take as much effort as speaking does and I can see who it is.

Bil thinks nothing of calling after 10 or 11pm for trivial shite that he could've called earlier for. I rarely answer the landline unless I'm in by myself.

mydaftlass Mon 17-Nov-14 10:14:32

I don't go to bed until midnight so calls are fine until half 10. I don't answer the phone until kids are in bed and I've eaten which is usually about 8.30/9. It totally depends on each individual's habits.

whatsagoodusername Mon 17-Nov-14 10:18:45

After 9 is too late for chatty calls, unless you know they'll definitely be up.

Until 10, if it's a quick call to check something, reasonably urgently, and you know they'll likely be up.

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